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"fine" (his non-commicatice answer for everything), "I don't know" , "I don't remember" ....And my absolute favorite, "sweet" as in cool or awesome.

AP was my friend and she used to say it all the time. When WS started using it even after she had moved away, that was one of the indicators that he had been communicating with her behind my back. WS insists he has been saying it since High School (yeah, I don't think so).

"Don't forget Secretary's Day!"

Not a chance anymore.

Well, my Husband happens to be in Las Vegas, one scene of many crimes.

I just had a mini meltdown, and he just said to me, " I don't remember, but I can assure you I was working." Really?

OW flew in at 8:30 am, couldn't get into the hotel room and just hung out in the lobby with her suitcase until 5 when he was done? Ummm, I don't think so! Why can't he just own it and tell the truth?

The other thing he just said to me was... "God forgave me, move on!"

Really, just forget it? He cancelled Homecoming weekend for two children's college at the very last minute. She got the time I was begging for, in addition to a very very expensive shopping spree, first class plane ticket, a credit card and very expensive dinners out for two nights! And apparently lots of sex...which I had none.

Right... Just no trigger at all that you are in Las Vegas!

When H describes something as "different".

He told me sex with AP wasn't worse, it wasn't better it was "different". God I hate that word.

"You're the one who wanted the divorce." (Yes, Asswipe. That's exactly what I wanted. Not.)

Strangely enough....the word "cocktails".

"Love you" without an "I" in front. He started saying it to me during his A. Shortly there after came ILYBNILWY. With the "I", i know he personally is involved in the feeling.

"I can't remember"

"I'm not going to discuss that"

and ever popular "Well I'm here aren't I" that phrase just makes me all warm and fuzzy all over.

"It is what it is."

In the early days of trauma, I found a note written by my WH to himself on a business card hidden in a glasses case at our cottage. It was about how he was ok with the AP having sex with others because he was using me as a "release". After all, "it is what it is". He had apparently written it while waiting in the car for the AP to show up for a "date" after she had accused him of stalking her. I didn't tell him I had found it, I replaced it and waited and watched for weeks for him to find it as a test. He never did so I finally showed it to him. He claimed no memory of writing it, refused to read it and threw it in the fire to burn.

His actions upon being shown the note told volumes about his refusal to deal with the reality of his choices.

I immediately trigger when I hear that phrase.

when he says I forgot. It takes me right back to the moment I heard her voice on the phone. When I asked him for history he says.I forgot everything. He can remeber his golf scores from the years 2000 but cant remember details. Right!

I don't remember.

They didn't mean anything to me.

It was just a release.

I didn't love them.

I never stopped loving you.

I looked for qualities in them that you had. I was looking for you in them. (Right here the whole time, never left Asshole.)

We weren't communicating.

When he says something wrong, or does something just plain stupid and his excuse is

"I wasn't thinking"

Hey jerk, you no longer have the luxury of that excuse!

Also:

"My memory is horrible these days"

Any time he refers to him and another woman as a "We" or an "Us". Even if it's just about work, or talking about someone in his past.

And then there is the "You're my everything". This one pisses me off, yet if he stops saying it I'm sure I'll be pissed too. It's never going to be the same

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"I've gotta take time for me"

His A was "me" time - and he will still occasionally use it - in reference now as to why he's canceling on the kids.

It makes me wish my super power was punching people through the phone.

Words used when I was clearly concerned about their relationship

"Relax" -- said slowly / drawn out.

"Chill"

"We're just friends"

She never says relax or chill anymore, but even thinking about her saying them messes with me.

One word "whatever".

That pisses me off to no end.

"She doesn't take 'no' for an answer."

Adding to RightTrack's suggestion of "forever"' I'm adding "always". He used to sign his letters to her "love forever and always". Besides the terribly bad grammar, I can't think of another word, other than "infinity" that might take its place...

Course, after she dumped him, he told her he would find "another resort to take a vacation".... So I'm left with the word "holiday", and wondering when the next resort will rear her ugly head.

The word "pussy" because she called him a pussy and he said it was something about the way she said it to him that made him want her bad.

The video game "Mario Kart", which is when she would call him a pussy, as he would leave to go home to me his wife, she wanted him to stay with her longer, some friend she was!

The phrase "piss off", she used to say it a lot in a englishy way and he started saying it.

Nebraska, because she is from there. I will never be able to be friends with anyone from there ever.

Oh man!