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simplydevastated ( member #25001) posted at 2:47 AM on Saturday, July 5th, 2014
If you want to do something to that makes you feel better why not treat yourself to a spa day or a movie you've been wanting to go see? Do something nice for yourself. Put yourself first.
Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)
OakStreet ( member #41193) posted at 3:34 AM on Saturday, July 5th, 2014
This is the sort of thread that dubious counselors should read. Some apparently think,we're just a bunch of amateur meddlers. This keeps me here.
^^ So very true!
Me: 60, WH 67
Married: 23 years
DS 21, 2 adult stepdaughters
DDay: Oct. 14, 2013
Divorced Jan. 2016
painfulpast (original poster member #41038) posted at 5:04 AM on Saturday, July 5th, 2014
So I'm texting with an old friend. He's gay - fully, totally, completely. We share beauty routines, guy talk, etc. He also lives on the other side of the country.
This is a MUCH better outlet!!
Thanks again everyone. I'm certain I'm be knee deep in some situation that would haunt me forever. Thanks to all my superheros
DDay - 12/2010
Fully R'd - I love my husband
AML04 ( member #39682) posted at 12:01 PM on Saturday, July 5th, 2014
Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 1:12 PM on Saturday, July 5th, 2014
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
deena04 ( member #41741) posted at 3:54 PM on Saturday, July 5th, 2014
Way to go pp! Beauty tips are awesome and make you feel great about yourself. It beats going out and cheating. Proud of you for making the better call.
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
Didact ( member #42867) posted at 4:54 PM on Saturday, July 5th, 2014
Such great advice.
This is the sort of thread that dubious counselors should read. Some apparently think,we're just a bunch of amateur meddlers.
True indeed.
No matter how painful, life either adapts or it dies.
BH (Me) 49
WW 48
Married 1985
D-Day Mar 19, 2014
1 year passionate EA/PA, ended by me on d-day.
Attempting to R
painfulpast (original poster member #41038) posted at 2:41 PM on Tuesday, August 5th, 2014
I'm bumping this for 2 reasons:
First - a HUGE thank you to all the superheroes that swooped in and saved me from making a VERY bad decision. There is no getting even, and I know this. I could go out with every man out there (single, of course!) and it wouldn't change what WH did. It wouldn't take away the insecurity or the pain. It just wouldn't. Nothing will. There is no getting even, there is only going deeper in the hole.
Second - Everyone always says when things are bad, post! Well, I did, and it stopped me from making what I knew was a big mistake but I was so 'in the moment' that it sounded like a double win - hurting WH and getting an ego boost - instead of the major loss it would have been for me.
SI is just awesome!! Thanks for always being here
DDay - 12/2010
Fully R'd - I love my husband
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