Oh oh oh, you all are going to be amazed!!,
So, challenge WS abut the hotmail account and push him; " really, you can't remember what username starts with "al"..
After a long back and forth on Skype, I actually do see the lights go on in his face as he realises--- it's the hotmail acct that he set up for his kids!! I say, plug it into that Microsoft alert and screenshot the result. Sure enough, it works-- and the alerts were being sent because ex wife / kids mum had altered some settings, her email was the for additional alert to Microsoft .
Now, am I relieved that *this* particular instance -- as altogether damning as it seemed, as all of you so rightly commented on-- turned out to be indeed innocent. Yeah, sort of.
But what it also did was cause him to reveal that there is another hotmail acct out there that is associated with fake FB Guy page. WS still insists that he cannot remember what it was ( we all groan) but I also learn all about the creation of that bloody FB page, and how they put their little heads together while talking in Skype and WS was creating page so they would have alternate way of communicating and so WS could comment on her Fb oage without revealing himself, and how OW and he thought up fake FB guys name as a pun on OW hobby ( other than screwing married men) and how he of course shared the email and password with OW .
And the revelation WS made that it was OW who put up the Relationship status -- and when I looked at the date it was posted, I realised that yes, I was with WS on that day and we were totally without access to computer on that day.
I asked him, feck, when you got back online and saw she had used your fake FB guy to proclaim you two were in a relationship, didn't your cohungas try to hide in your stomach!?!? And he said, no, but he can understand just how bad it was that he didn't react badly, in fact he was excited about it, no matter how dangerous.
So, minus 20 points for ugly affair behaviour, minus 20 points for "not remembering" information that could be used to take down stupid fake FB page. Another minus 20 points for what it means to trust that a hotmail acct is out there and i dont trust how much is not remembered. A few points for new information that I have on how this aspect of affair development went, and a few points also for him seeing how his stupid affair brain at that point let him dance on the edge of the knife.
The other fact of this whole incident: he knows I don't trust very much of anything right now, and that his "trust" account in my heart is overdrawn.
I have no idea if that wakes him up to the tick tock of too much time passing before he starts to remember and work on this stuff. This whole incident has exhausted whatever lingering patience I had. I don't really care if he was sort of exonerated in the "al" hotmail acct alert; even learning more details for my own knowing has simply made me feel more like this whole affair thing is just too much to ever reconcile. I understand now how you can love someone but realise you have to draw a line under it all. It's over to him now to work double time to prove himself. I just don't have anymore to give for another round of " is he lying" .
[This message edited by Amazingyetlost at 9:59 AM, September 18th (Thursday)]
