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EEJJ... I love you, brother, but who the hell buys a black car in Arizona?????

EEJJ, I feel for you. Mines on the spectrum of crazy too, but maybe not as far along as yours. I guess I'll figure out exactly where as we finish up and actually get the D finalized. Which can not be soon enough as far as I'm concerned. All I can do is send strength!

Did that article I posted get your attention EEJJ? Hell, it even predicted that she would get the court involved before you posted that she got the courts involved.

Read this. Pay attention to #2 not showing any emotion because she knows she's got you there and she's looking to get a rise out of you.

http://letmereach.com/2014/05/29/3-ways-to-get-a-narcissist-to-leave-you-alone/

yop

Well, I had to get my lawyer involved and set her loose and now she is all over my EX! So now EX has a deadline today to comply!! All she had to do was hand over the keys, but no! Had to get the courts, the police and attorneys involved for the key handover! F@#CKEN RIDICULOUS!! We will see if she listens.

I will be leaving the office early today and just leaving! Going back to my home state....spend some time on the beach and just .... I dont know just something! Will be the first time ever really in my life that I will be doing this alone. Think I need it, will be something new for sure!

Goingtothrive! I hope to get it to the point of its just for the kids. As of now the only thing we have is taxes and vehicles left and then thats it. Would be only the kids from there but who knows where things will go from here.

Hopeless, Back at ya brother I guess just me at first man but now she bought one so um . Welcome to my twilight zone ha

Heartfullofholes. Thanks. Stay strong and stand tall through this craziness. Im here if needed. It can get overwhelming, but you will get to points where you just sit and laugh.

Ongoingprocess Thank you. I guess they may make a good pair at this time

YOP My brother. Did it get my attention. Im speechless! Actually a little frightened. I read one about co parenting with a narc as well, and it was not good. As you, I hope your wrong brother but man oh man....all the signs point right at it! Not only this brother, last night I found out a whole bunch of FOO issues in her family. I mean oh shit type of things. I told the person, I wish you would of told me about all this FOO before I married her!!!!! Unbelievable!

I'm telling you EEJJ, her shit has always been there. Her mask slipped when you didn't pursue her.

Her next move is going to be dead beat mom and not pay child support. She will be looking to get something from you, specifically a rise out of you< when she doesn't pay. Or pays late or whatever her little game there is. Trust me. It's on her to do list. She will declare hardship or some shit. Don't react to it and stay NC.

I don't know that there is much you can do when she doesn't pay, but let the lawyer know that it is coming so that if she can get out in front of it, will be easier to deal with when she pulls that card.

I'm sorry this is happening to you EEJJ. Go enjoy that weekend. Thoughts are with you.

yop

The great battle of "the key" is over. She had my dd drop off the key yesterday. (sigh) to tired to even go on about this subject.

Trip has been , well something new. Slight coaster. For the first time ever i have taken a voluntarily trip alone and single! A lot of reflecting and a bit of sadness. Bit of reality. Passed by the places where my dreams started and faced the reality of it being crushed. Faced the truth about what might never be. Came to terms with a lot. Even though it was a bit sad, not one tear was shed!

Spent a night doing something I really love and it zoned me out. I forgot about everything for a few hours. Was great. Now ill be heading back to reality! Already getting emails from atty on ex continued battles over vehicles. Unbelievable.

On better nees pos om wife still goimg through with divorce so far. So pos has the D, the criminal case, and hearing theres a lawsuit as well. He might of filed the suit. Good tonkkow he has a lot on his plate. Still no word on his job but if he does not get let go there will be noise made

So apparently the word on the "Streets" is that im dating someone. This is not the case, but thats the word. Does this explain the latest outburst from THE EX? (cue the jaws theme song)

Doesnt matter, but once I heard that it was a aha moment of now it makes sense

My guess would be she doesn't like the "word on the street". I had to get a restraining order on my ex when he found out I was dating for the first time.

What a bunch of asshats!!!!

Thanks for the updates. Best wishes!

EEJJ, the word is most likely coming from your xWW. She will do anything to try and stir the pot my friend. You know this. She will make shit up to get at you and she will make shit up to justify her actions for whatever it is she is going to do.

The only problem I have here is that when your ex makes something like this up and spreads it around...she will use this type of shit on your kids. So when daddy says he's at work I really I've heard he's really with a new girlfriend. I heard that shit too. Remember she doesn't give a shit about the kids and will use them as a tool against you.

I hope I'm wrong here. Just speaking from my own experience that your exWW is most like the "word on the street" herself and that she is going to use her own lie. BTDT.

yop

Well im thinking of asking her back everyone.........................

.APRIL FOOOOOOLLLSSSS!! have to make light if it sometime I would say

Serenity, wow. Well I wouldn't be surprised if I have to take that route.

Hope not though.

Yop, I hear you brother. One incident caused ex to already bring that up to my dd. This time I think its coming from mybside oof the family. Either way it dont matter. I think it just adds up with the craziness over a dam key.

"Close the doors that cause you pain, anger and suffering so you can open the ones that bring you love, acceptance and inner peace"

^^^ A quote i came across that meant alot and hit home. On point to how I feel at this point in my life and jacked up situation I got thrown into. Im tired and just DONE with the nonsense and am now saying FUCK IT. Ive been quiet on here and as always thanks for the messages and checking in on me. I have just been soaking it all in and I have accepted it all!! I have accepted that my marriage is done, my divorce is real, my dream of having that perfect family is gone, I have accepted that 50% or more of the marriage problems were my fault even though I tried my best to be the best husband and best dad I could be, i have accepted that this shit storm will be a part of my life from now on, But most importantly I have accepted this challenge and have accepted that this is not my fault and accepted the assignment given to me now to make sure my kids stay strong and keep moving forward in this life and keep on the positive side of it all!

Today marks 8 months since Dday everyone. How time is flying. Even though I still cant believe this is now my reality, I accept it! I would of never gotten to this point without my family here on SI! I cant say it enough, but thank you.

For those who message and say my story is helping them so much, I will continue to post and am always here if needed. Feel free to PM!

Im moving forward from here on out! Jumping to my new beginnings now no matter what position im in! Even though there is still a lot to go, even though things are about to get worse, even though im still in the fire, even though the hole is still in my chest.....I am firmly very firmly standing strong and tall on my feet now!! Even though this shit still jumps in and hurts here and there, It really dont matter anymore! My new beginnings will start in the FIRE!!!!! at 8 months out, 4.7.15 will be my new DDAY.....The D day of discovering ME!!! Yes it starts in an inferno, Yes it will hurt and Im sure I will be posting still and may get watery eyes a few times.... But F it....its the beginning........

The D day of discovering ME!!!

Hallelujah!!!

Keep up the good fight!

((((EEJJ))))

Thank you to happy.

Well, I feel that im ready and moving to the NEW BEGINNING section my SI FAMILY!!

new beginnings

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=558283

I like these last two posts from you EEJJ!!!

Keep staying positive

yop

Thank you brother.