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hcsv ( member #51813) posted at 1:43 PM on Tuesday, August 29th, 2017
We were together 40 years. I didn't want to divorce but in the end I didn't have any other choice. His words, speaking of his mistress, "she's my friend and always will be."
The only other choice, if I didn't want divorce, was to live in his infidelity for the rest of my life and honestly, i wouldn't have survived it and I mean that quite literally.
So, in the end, i chose life, MY life. Divorce was the means to that end.
I hate that I am divorced, I miss the 40 years we had together, but i don't regret the divorce..
After 40 years, ex turned into someone I didnt know and couldnt trust anymore. Divorced. 1/17
SuperDaddy1027 ( member #59344) posted at 1:51 PM on Tuesday, August 29th, 2017
Her refusing to R was a blessing in disguise, it saved me years of heartache.
I agree 100%. I think I would have been a horrible candidate for R. That little voice would have kept nagging at me. Above all else my hands were tied. I don't believe in D. But I also don't believe in (or agree) with infidelity. I was given no other option but to pursue D. The thing that chaps my ass is my STBXWW made a conscious decision to stop loving/caring/respecting me. I was forced to stop those feelings. It just doesn't seem fair. I wanted to love her and be with her for the rest of my life.
I know it will all work out and I will be fine and my kids will be fine. It just absolutely sucks because I never wanted or deserved to be treated like complete dog shit!
[This message edited by SuperDaddy1027 at 7:53 AM, August 29th (Tuesday)]
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