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Marz ( member #60895) posted at 5:11 PM on Sunday, May 6th, 2018
We are all different.
The lesson I've learned is you have to work with who you are.
If betrayal is a deal breaker trying to work around that just usually makes two people miserable.
The trick is making a decision. I think most know what they need to do but actually making a decision is the hard part.
Learn to make a decision.
Shocked123 ( member #63617) posted at 8:26 PM on Sunday, May 6th, 2018
The hardest part is making that decision while he cries and begs for me to try to make this work. I see a remorseful person in pain, one that I loved, trusted and chose to have 3 children with. But then I think about the pain he has caused this family with no guarantee that he won't do it again.
After all, it must be hard to give up a habit after 400-500 times!
To answer your question, I will probably end up divorcing a remorseful spouse, yes,
I will do it in my own time, when I am stronger and have a better idea of finances.
Oftencheatedon ( member #41268) posted at 11:22 PM on Sunday, May 6th, 2018
Many people do. Remorse is not enough.
If I murdered someone I could have a lot of remorse, but I’d still be a murderer.
A spouse may have real remorse, but still may be a cheating liar.
Shocked123 ( member #63617) posted at 3:22 AM on Monday, May 7th, 2018
Oftencheatedon, given the fact that it went on for 13 plus years, I would certainly classify him as a liar.
Chances are it just won't change. It may for a while but I will live in fear that it will happen again.
I don't see much choice here...
Dragonfly123 ( member #62802) posted at 6:22 PM on Sunday, July 8th, 2018
When you can’t control what’s happening, challenge yourself to control the way you respond to what’s happening. That’s where the power is.
fullgoosebozo ( member #46607) posted at 7:12 PM on Sunday, July 8th, 2018
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