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stubbornft ( member #49614) posted at 4:56 PM on Tuesday, April 9th, 2019
Only a few, but the common traits I see are:
1) They show each other respect. Not in some formal, frigid way. They don't talk bad about the other and they treat each other with just a different sense of respect than I see in most couples.
2) Both partners are happy on their own, outside of their identity as a couple.
I feel like I know a lot of people that PRETEND to have happy marriages, but I also know a few that really do and they are a great example.
Me: BS 40 Him: WS 51 He cheated with massage parlor sex workersDday 01/19/2021
Kicked him out in 2021 - life is better on the other side. Moved on with the help of a wonderful therapist.
Thissucks5678 ( member #54019) posted at 5:15 PM on Tuesday, April 9th, 2019
I don’t know too many in my age group. I think it’s the age of our kids. It’s a trying time. But I think my WH and I are happy. I wish my WH hadn’t had an affair and we didn’t have that scar in our marriage, but I would go back in time and marry him again. I am almost positive a year ago I said the opposite of that. He drives me crazy sometimes, but I really do love him. We are in a good place.
DDay: 6/2016
“Every test in our life makes us Bitter or Better. Every problem comes to Break Us or Make Us. The choice is ours whether to be Victim or Victor.” - unknown
Oftencheatedon ( member #41268) posted at 3:52 AM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2019
I had dinner tonight with 12 friends that I have known for over 50 years. One is divorced and two are widowed.
I honestly think that the others are truly happily married. Yes they may have had ups and downs but they are content and enjoying life together.
I also have to disagree with all of the marriage is hard work stuff. Life is hard - but I have not found marriage to a good man to be hard.
Marriage to an asshole is of course hard. But marrying a decent spouse who truly loves and respects you is not exactly rocket science.
After an early divorce and years (decades) of being single I remarried as an older person. We have been married for a decade - no not 2 years but not 2 decades either. We truly like and respect each other.
Are things perfect? Of course not. His son is a worthless POS - but I have nothing to do with him and DH respects my decision. But I have not found it to be hard at all.
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