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DevastatedDee ( member #59873) posted at 6:45 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2019
because they need a replacement for their mommy at home to hold down the responsibilities so they can be stupid, entitled kids!
So so true. And yet I don't remember signing adoption papers on a grown-ass man, lol.
DDay: 06/07/2017
MH - RA on DDay.
Divorced a serial cheater (prostitutes and lord only knows who and what else).
KonaGal ( member #70677) posted at 6:54 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2019
I don't smoke, but I need a cigarette after this thread. Chump Lady, OMG 
Kathy115 ( new member #60339) posted at 7:32 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2019
Why not be single and play all of the games you want?
Because in an A they can play victims, who need to be rescued from their mean, abusive, cruel, nag, ugly, fat, sex refusing spouse. So their APs show them extra care, give them extra love and mindblowing sex. No one will do that much, when they are single and it feels so good to be victim and to be rescued. When their BS tell them to move in with their AP-s they cannot be rescued anymore and play the victim. When they stay with their BS, then they are stuck of course and can be victims again.
At the time of his A
BW 40
WH 40
Together 17 years, married 6 years
Kids 5,11
DD1:11/05/2016(our anniversary)
DD2:03/17/2017
SoulCrushed16 (original poster member #53364) posted at 7:59 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2019
So so true. And yet I don't remember signing adoption papers on a grown-ass man, lol.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣!! I needed this today!
My Ex was cheating with his mother and grandmother in ONE. OW was a mother, grandmother, and great grandmother. 
... 32 years my senior. Looked like a giant pile of baby diarrhea. His 65 year old waitress sugar momma ...
"The best day of my life is the rest of my life without you " --- SC16
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 8:06 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2019
Because in an A they can play victims, who need to be rescued from their mean, abusive, cruel, nag, ugly, fat, sex refusing spouse. So their APs show them extra care, give them extra love and mindblowing sex. No one will do that much, when they are single and it feels so good to be victim and to be rescued. When their BS tell them to move in with their AP-s they cannot be rescued anymore and play the victim. When they stay with their BS, then they are stuck of course and can be victims again.
Lolololol ^^^ this made my day. My WS is an eternal victim waaaaaah
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Divorced 8/2024
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 8:20 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2019
I think sometimes the CS (male) view us as their “mother” because we need to remind them of things and pamper them and take care of them and do their laundry etc.
So I decided I was no one’s maid or cleaning girl. I stopped all of it. When we dated I didn’t do his laundry. And I don’t any longer since DDay 2.
I took back my power in this marriage. And 😍 my love doesn’t come with cleaning rights.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 11 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
SoulCrushed16 (original poster member #53364) posted at 9:32 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2019
Lolololol ^^^ this made my day. My WS is an eternal victim waaaaaah
LMAO!!!
CB,
Mine was a victim as well... it got to the point where when he would start bitchin and moanin about life, I would just look him up and down and walk off. Who hell wants to hear that shit everyday?? We didn’t cause this crap. I can’t understand how someone can look their wife or husband in the eye and say “the sex was really bad so I went out and cheated on you, now let’s move past it”...
The1st,
I got to the point where I would cook and only serve myself. If he wanted to eat he had to get his cheating ass in the kitchen BEFORE I finished my meal or I would throw it out. I also stopped doing his laundry, he wasn’t allowed to use MY bathroom and wasn’t allowed in MY bedroom. His bed was the couch. 
...
"The best day of my life is the rest of my life without you " --- SC16
cancuncrushed ( member #28156) posted at 10:45 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2019
This is one area that has confused me....
How do they get to destroy, and mess up...then ponder exactly what life should be next? Why don't they know what they want? its one or the other...they want both....mostly they want AP, but don't want to lose everything they own.
Why do we sit and wait? why do we allow this? Why isn't it 100 percent our decision?
For me it was fear, shock and trauma...I couldn't function...I was floored with rejection....and I didn't want AP to win...it was so unfair...I remained frozen..
Wh never saw it..never understood what I was feeling...he saw it as an opportunity...to continue...I wasn't losing my mind...I must be ok...he got away with it...
I hate fence sitting...it adds insult to an already destructive situation...who needs extra when being emotionally abused? How can they believe they are human?
WH regretted not leaving for AP1....Not sure she was offering that...he stayed married to me...when AP2 came along.....he jumped on it...he wasn't going to miss the opportunity again.....she dumped him....we are D.
poor smoopie...hes binge drinking...
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