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You can report the post to Facebook or other social media as harassment or fake news. Meaning, since he stated he is your son's godfather, and that is not true, they can delete the message. Then he loses the attention dollars he is looking for, while also still giving the money.

Out of curiosity, is there any way to verify that he actually made the donation? Are you sure he isn't lying about it? Your BIL could expose him as a liar if that was the case.

Regardless, YOUR best course is to ignore him. I'm sure that he just wants attention. Don't give it to him.

He needs validation so you ignore him.

How do you put out fire? Starve that bitch from oxygen. Right now, being central is like oxygen to that MF'er. He's missing ego kibbles, meaning attention. So starve him. Go to the gym and get in the ring and do some sparring, or lift weights, run, whatever to work through the anger. Then dont give him shit.

I'd write a book if I told you everything Shrek did, and xhile too, for my attention. So I know your rage, but never ever let them know they got to you. Never.

Your BIL can delete the emoji reply if it is his page. I'd have him block the douchebag, then delete the reply, but I'd leave it at that. Everyone would love to see him get his ass handed to him again but the juice is not worth the squeeze and you already recognize that so good onya.

If you really want to smoke him tell the rehab center he is a pedo, and to keep his donation but please delete his name and make him an anonymous donor.

I told my brother in law not to delete the emoji nor to block the POS. He said if I change my mind let me know and he will gladly block him instantly. But for now I’m treating him and his comment like the nothing that he is.

The donation is real. It’s one of those crowdfunding sites where all donations are tracked unless the donor checks a box to hide their donation, to hide their name but leave the donation amount, or to hide the donation amount but leave the name. If nothing is checked then the full name and donation amount of all donors is listed in chronological order (newest donors at the top).

I told my wife and she was horrified. She offered to contact the fundraising lead and tell them that the donor is estranged from our family. She said that she would request that they rescind that donation so that it could be returned to the donor. She also offered to change our son to a new provider that the POS is unfamiliar with and apologized repeatedly and tearfully for us even having to contend with this.

I told her absolutely not. We’re not doing any of that. I refuse to have us go to all of that trouble for a pathetic loser like him. The money will go to good use. And my son is attached to his therapists and has made a lot of progress with them over the years. No way am I going to have him start all the way over at some new place because of his POS former godparent.

Thank you all for your words of wisdom because yesterday my patience and sanity was close to nonexistent. Truthfully, even today I am still irritated about the whole thing. But I’m going to ignore his childish behavior - for now. If he persists, then I might feel forced to escalate things. I’ll use my head and do it the right way, through legal channels rather than through force. But hopefully he gets the hint and backs the fuck down.

Crickets, like you all said. Starve him of all his oxygen. While he’s stalking social media pages leaving heart emojis like a third grader I’m surrounded by the love of my wife, son, and daughter. While he’s donating money to get my wife’s attention I’m in bed making love to her. While he’s dedicating his support to his “godson” my son is at school living his best life and not even thinking about his former godparent (he doesn’t even ask about him any longer).

He’s a pathetic loser.

Thank you everyone for helping me keep my cool yesterday. Today is going to be a better day.

I going to have him start all the way over at some new place because of his POS former godparent.

I think you need to keep in mind that while what he did was borderline psychotic your W needs to own her responsibility in this mess.

I get it is "safer," to point to the AP and put the blame on him, but your W had an equal hand in that. You don't have to punish her, but she needs to be clear that part of the reason he still hangs around is that she had an A with him.

For a WS to truly earn the FWS label they need to keep owning it as consequences to not only the WS, but also those close to them are impacted.

Not trying to be harsh toward your wife at all. I just don't want you to lose sight of that aspect. You can still forgive, find grace, accept the past, but it is not your place to offer absolution. It is the past and it can't be changed. It can only be addressed going forward with asking for forgiveness and you extending that grace.

If it were me I would head this off. Using your son as a foil is not acceptable.

See an attorney and write and send a cease and desist. Explain that this is harassment and all contact must stop or you will take proper legal steps.