Rfv3311 ( new member #85046) posted at 8:10 PM on Wednesday, December 24th, 2025
You should tell the kids the truth. I’m assuming they are not young given she did this after 40 years. Do not protect a cheater and she doesn’t love you, she’s saying that to try to minimize what she doing. I still love you but I’m leaving you for another man? See how ridiculous that sounds. She isn’t even trying to save the marriage, you confronted her and she immediately plans to leave to be with him. She is a stranger now, she’s not the woman you married. Treat her like a stranger, don’t talk to her, don’t respond if she messages you. She is going to try to pretend she cares to try to improve her image as a cheater, don’t give that to her, cut her off and go no contact other than necessary contact for the divorce. You can not trust her, do not provide any support, she needs to get that from her boyfriend now not you and definitely tell the children. They deserve to know the truth!
[This message edited by Rfv3311 at 10:40 PM, Wednesday, December 24th]
Reconciled but far from perfect.
