Revpab (original poster new member #87662) posted at 4:51 PM on Monday, August 10th, 2026
You're exactly right on validation. She was constantly receiving praise, validation and emotional support from this guy and which she said I didn't provide for her.
Letmebefrank ( member #86994) posted at 6:19 PM on Monday, August 10th, 2026
She was constantly receiving praise, validation and emotional support from this guy and which she said I didn't provide for her
Even if this were true, it does not justify her affair. She had a hundred different options. She could have talked to you. Asked for marriage counseling. She could have divorced you. But instead she chose, repeatedly, to seek these things from AP. She chose to lie and betray.
She really needs to be in therapy to figure out why she is like that and why she chose to handle it the way she did.
OhItsYou ( member #84125) posted at 7:06 PM on Monday, August 10th, 2026
From your telling of it, I don’t see any kind of remorse from your WW. All I see is someone who will say & do whatever she wants because she already knows you won’t leave. NEVER give the impression that you’ll stay no matter what. Usually the only way you can get a WS to come to terms with what they’ve done is when they truly fear they will lose you and their lifestyle over it.
Revpab (original poster new member #87662) posted at 7:19 PM on Monday, August 10th, 2026
She's ready to leave also, she says any decision I make is fine for her. All she says is, decide one way or another and stop bringing up this topic.
