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So glad that when she assaulted you, that you followed through. Because now her fingerprints are on file. So if it was her, they should be able to prove it. Also, if it was her, then it should prove to your ex that she really is going over the edge.

I can't imagine that if she had someone else come in that they would spray your perfume.

((TC & Teeny))

((((((((Carrie))))))))

I'm so sorry! You've taken some good steps to keep you and teeny safe. I really hope that she left her prints behind and you can get that crazy bitch locked up!

I also keep a pair of men's work boots on my front and back porch. Gives the illusion that a man might be home. Sounds silly but it actually sparked my friends to ask who was I hiding in the house.

Along these lines - one year when my ex was particularly menacing, and I was going to be alone in the house, I had friends rotate their extra cars there.

So let's say friend A has a Subaru and Friend B has a Ford they don't drive that often.

Monday, you have Friend A park the car on the right side of the driveway. Tuesday, you have moved it to the left side with the spare keys she left you.

Wednesday and Thursday, the Ford is parked on the left side, unmoving, and the Subaru is gone.

I did this for a week - moved the car left there, had someone else bring a different car, etc. No one actually had to stay with me, and for anyone who was watching the house? They had NO idea if someone was there or not.

It was something small friends could do to help out, so they were more than willing.

Do you have a panic button on your car key fob too?

Any news from the police? This scares me for you, TC. Be careful.

TC-- hope nothing "interesting" has happened today.

please check in and let us know things are OK. thinking about you

I am so sorry you are going thru this. The spraying of the perfume, going thru your drawers and nothing was taken, that is personal. This looks like a pattern of escalation. When you posted about the job incident, I kinda of felt this might come next, but didn't think she would be crazy enough.

What really scares me is that she has no regard for the baby that she is carrying either, that tells me she has no boundaries. Please take care of yourself.

[This message edited by BMC0415 at 9:13 PM, September 6th (Monday)]

I haven't heard back from the police or anyone in law enforcement.

I did have someone tell me she thinks my DD is EXH's. LMAO.

Yeah she does kind of look like him...blondish red hair and blue eyes but thats where it ends.

So maybe she thinks my moving back here is trying to get him back with our "love child". That is just so ridiculous I haven't stopped laughing. You would think that he would have told her that I tried to have children for 10 flippin years...them what? We get a divorce, have an affair and I get DD out of it? Get real you psycho.

Anyone and everyone knows I adopted her. She is a special kind of dumbass.

I am going to call them in the morning to follow up.

I refuse to be afraid of her. She is a nut job, but seriously how much longer can she play this game. She is pregnant. Think of your baby. Maybe she cant take her meds while pregnant?

I wasnt around last time, even though I was married to the baby daddy.

I will let you know what happens. My cousin and her family are coming in this week for DD's birthday celebration this weekend. So we wont be alone until next week sometime. Thank goodness for family.

Glad you will have someone with you, TC.

You know, you cannot rationalize "crazy".

There is little sense to what they do. Or the risks they take. That is what many of here are concerned about.

A truly messed up and mentally disturbed woman, ramping up and escalating what she is willing to do, without regard for herself or her unborn child.

Beware of this. Do not expect that she will think like a normal, rational human being.

-D

I will be cautious, but I am so sick of this crap ruling my life. Its been a part of me for 3 years. I let go, she has him. She got my friends, my house, my x's family. Why bother me now.

I didn't do anything to her or him. I have been living my life and when I come home she goes nuts. It makes no sense.

She must be off her meds or something. I have pressed charges. I dont talk about them to anyone other to SI, my parents or family. No mutual friends. I dont bring him up on FB, Twitter or anything. It makes no sense.

This is supposed to be a great week. DD is turning two and I am throwing a huge party for her. All of my family is coming in. I am not going to let her ruin this for me or DD.

She will go to jail if she broke into my house, I will press charges. She knows Im dead serious. I know he knows how serious I am. His Mommy knows too. I told her to get her out of my face last week at the Gymboree. She begged me not to call the cops. I didnt because I loved that woman. Stupid me.

Im done being the nice one. I will see if I can sue her for some type of civil violation if nothing else. Sick to death of being the victim here.

[This message edited by TrainerCarrie at 9:57 PM, September 6th (Monday)]

Ridiculous ... why in the WORLD has she just gone crazy. You don't bother them, she rarely has to see you.

Did she ever tell the cops why she was camped out at your work?

You have my empathy.

I have had some scary stalkers in the past.

Perhaps this will help

http://www.fris.org/Sections/05-Stalking/5.01-Victims.html

"In West Virginia, to be charged with the crime of stalking, someone must repeatedly (two or more times) follow another person knowing or having reason to know that the conduct causes the person followed to reasonably fear for his or her safety or suffer significant emotional distress.

edited to add this part:

He or she might repeatedly wait for the victim outside her/his home or office. A stalker might call the victim on the phone and make threats or hang up each time the victim answers. Some stalkers slash tires, vandalize homes and threaten their victims with weapons. Some stalkers send flowers, gifts and cards to solely to intimidate their target.

West Virginia’s stalking law addresses additional threatening behaviors in the category of harassment. Someone can be charged with harassment if they repeatedly (two or more times) harass or repeatedly make credible threats against another person."

Her elevator doesn't go all the way to the top since neither jail nor a RO has kept her away. Both should have served as deterrents.

Stay safe.

[This message edited by hellzapoppin at 4:14 PM, September 7th (Tuesday)]

Nothing but hugs, TC, and a sincere wish this would all stop and they'd leave you alone.

Sorry this is happening to you. It really sounds like OW is escalating.

I know you don't want to let her affect your life too much. And I know you hope she'll stop because of her baby, but you may have to face some real hard facts:

She is not deterred by law enforcement. - You have a RO, and she's been arrested before. And yet she still showed up at your job. You may need to seriously consider changing jobs.

She's using facebook, friends and family to spy on you. You may need to seriously consider dropping FB and limiting your time and access to people she can talk to.

She is batshit crazy. People like this have no rhyme or reason for their actions. You cannot predict when they will start or stop. She may leave you alone for months or years and then pop up again like a bad penny because of something going on in HER life.

She is escalating. She is openly stalking you. Showing up at your job, making scenes in public places, and now the break in. She is serious about this, and so you should be. Seriously consider moving.

I think you should seriously consider moving. I know you don't want to run away or let her run your life. But people like this can literally turn your life into a living hell for years. Law enforcement can only protect you from people who have at least a small fear or respect for the law. She has shown that she has neither.

Listen, my sorority sister has been stalked by an "ex-boyfriend" for over a decade.(I use the quotes because, they only had a handful of dates, before she decided that they just weren't clicking, and then the stalking began) She has moved twice, and changed jobs at least 5 times that I know of. These types get fixated on people and they don't let go. Please take this seriously and don't wait too long before you cut out every avenue she has into your life. She will use it to stalk and harass you.

Sometimes cutting your losses and running now is alot better than waiting and seeing.

I'm so sorry this is happening to you.

I agree with the suggestion about installing the nannycam. I'd also install one in an outdoor location, one that would record a view of anyone approaching your front or back door.

I definitely believe it's the preggo psycho. That perfume spraying is a dead giveaway. I bet she was also trying to see what she could find out about you. You may discover later on that a photo or pair of panties or piece of jewelry -- some sort of personal item -- may turn up missing. I also wouldn't be surprised if she suspects your EX is now cheating on her -- with you! Sounds like her insanity has been propelled into the stratosphere by her hormones!

One more thing . . . not to scare you or make you panic, but is there a chance that she planted some sort of *bug* or camera in your house? Any chance that a GPS has been attached to your car? She was either parked somewhere close to your house, to watch your comings and goings, or she is able to detect, through other means, when you have left your house.

She definitely wants you out of the picture and I don't think you've seen or heard the last of this nutjob, sad to say.

Too bad you can't put a hidden GPS on her car to track her movements.

TC.....additional "tools" you may want to consider that are rather inexpensive, but effective are a voice activated digital tape recorder. You can leave this in any location you think she or whoever may invade and leave sound or voice evidence.

The other item is pepper spray in your purse. It'll work well if you're in a non-life threatening confrontation.

Stay alert & wish you well..WM

Thanks everyone. Just taking it a day at a time.

Im not moving, I just bought my house.

Im not changing jobs, I just landed my dream job.

That pregnant psycho is going to jail. My attorney says I can sue her for a civil action. She will leave me alone.

Im done dealing with her or being polite.

The security people were here today. My house is locked down like Ft. Knox.

My darling Step dad installed motion lights and my garage should be finished up this weekend so my car will no longer be out in the open.

My aunt has security, Im not worried about DD there. I have security at work. She told the police she was there to pay her bill...its not a payment location but she had a RO..she violated it.

Im thinking I should hear from the troopers tomorrow.

Its been peaceful, lets hope it stays that way.

Thank you all for the support.

Stay safe and stay sane.

(((hugs)))

I've been following this, Carrie... I'm SO glad your house is now secure.

She's a total fruit loop. And that's the nicest thing I can say about her.

You are so strong... you always impress me. I also want to be you when I grow up.

(((((Carrie and Teeny)))))

[This message edited by wildbananas at 10:52 PM, September 7th (Tuesday)]

Carrie,

I really admire the way you handle things. Cool head. You get things done, take care of business.

I just wanted to tell you. I think you rock.

I am so happy you are having a big party and family all around. How exciting.

Love do