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NO - And I am 2 years out but I do have a question for you Feb 8, 2011 - has your WW shown you 100% remorse; answered every question truthfully; and otherwise followed the roadmap laid out elsewhere on this site as to what WS should do for their BS? I appreciate the WS wanting it all to go away as soon as possible but how do you feel about things? hang in there.

PR

No, six months out and still hurts like crazy.

no it was 21 days for me yesterday and I'm still just as devastated as i was on day one

No way! 6 years and counting and not a day goes by without some kind of a reminder. Affairs are the gift that keeps on giving...unfortunately!

ahh no way.

This is not something you just get over.

Let me stab you in the chest with a knife and give you shit for flinching everytime I walk by.

so the way i feel now is the new normal ... that makes me feel sad cause i am already tired of hurting all the time

Absolutely & completely NOT!!!

13 years, things will get better, there will be a time where you become a very strong person and the hurt will eventually be in the past

I'm a thousand steps away from the sadness I felt early on. What doesn't go away is just dealing with it. It will always be an event that you have to process and adjust to - much like the loss of a loved one.

Feb 8,

You are going to ask her for a few more days???? You are going to need much more than that and if she is at all remorseful she would already know that.

..NO..not a fucking snowball's chance in hell!

..nearly 2 years out from D-day..and still suffering..

smy

[This message edited by somanyyears at 12:40 PM, March 1st (Tuesday)]

Friendorfoe...I am trying to recapture my sense of humour...a few more days was clearly a joke...obviously I'll need a whole week.

This is a trick question..right?

Whats the prize for the right answer?

Wow - your wife is a real sweetheart - 3 whole weeks? what is wrong with you - it was no big deal - you men - you blow things out of proportion all the time.

21 days? 21 days? omg...how I wish I could be "over it" in 21 days.

Please - I want the results of the survey.

[This message edited by LivingALie at 12:58 PM, March 1st (Tuesday)]

Though WH is doing all the right things (actions), he still doesn't want to tell the whole truth, which prevents us from getting any where near the Starting Line of R.

We're inching there.

TT is a killer....and I'm still in a great deal of pain with some anger thrown in too.

So, No - that's my final answer.

i kinda envy you feb 8 my wife left me on my birthday feb 7 and i don't think she will ever come back not in 21 days or 21 years

i'm not saying you should give in and get over it that's not possible i'm just saying i wish my wife would come back so i could get over it

Living a Lie - the results are there to see...like we didn't already know them.

Yes -0%

No - 100%

Of course, I can't actually share this little survey or its results with my WW, becasue I'm smart enought to keep this (SI) my "safe place"

NO

I am 2 yrs out. I have learned how to manage the triggers. I think it will be along time till I AM OVER IT.

This is from the healing library. Show her this....

One day you will wake up and the fog that you are in lifts and you will find that you have gotten yourself into a major situation. A situation that could/should have been avoided at all costs. You will have taken the innocent trust of you spouse and demolished it along with their spirit, ego, and self esteem. You will have taken the flower you once married and poured gasoline on it and struck a match. That soul will NEVER be the same, whether you decide to work on your marriage or end it. You have literally taken a human being and completely altered their inner structure. Not to mention the toll this places on your children whether they are adults or just babies. You will see the people that you were supposed to love the most, forsaken all others for, go through the most agonizing pain that a human soul can possibly go through. They will be Devastated, angry, remorseful for things they blame on themselves. They will dissect their entire marriage to find out just what went wrong. They will then turn that blame inward. They will start justifying your affair for you. If they were skinnier, smarter, into your hobbies more, maybe they should have cooked more so you wouldn't have to go out. You will watch this butterfly become entangled in the web of your affair and watch as the spider of the affair slowly encases them in a cocoon; then you get to watch it as it literally eats your spouse alive. Every detail of the affair slowly turns their insides to liquid and the affair will then suck the life right out of them.

I'm nearly a year out. This describes me to a T.

13yrsgone...I know that I have it better than some (and worse than others). My wife is NOT BACK, other than physically living in the same house, and more or less getting along. She is still in the fog...

Uh, not just no...but HELL NO!!! I am still trying to figure out if such a betrayal can ever be made right m

uchless forgiven?