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Temperance:

I’m sorry that you’re hurting. I never doubted in my mind while reading your story that it was a “real” relationship – as my previous posts have stated, I was also in your situation a few years ago and I will never doubt that my situation was also as real as it gets. The pain is just as bad whether they’re in front of you or thousands of miles away.

As hard as it may be to believe now, you will find someone better suited to you, and you will find happiness again.

Hugs.

You are an online sex worker. He has managed to get your services for free by playing you into thinking you are his girlfriend. That is what I see when I read this. I say start charging him.

Or, get a more respectable job and focus on meeting man who behaves like a responsible and caring adult. That's probably an even better plan.

There is a great site called baggage reclaim that I think would be great for you to check out.

You know, if you really want some "real, tangible advice" here's the question you need to answer for yourself: What's the payoff? What are you getting out of this relationship that is making it worth your while / desirable to you? Drama? Some type of freedom? A feeling of superiority? A chance to be a fixer? I could go on, there are other potential "payoffs" there, and probably some I can't even think up, but if you can answer that question for yourself, you also might be able to answer for yourself whether or not you should try to stay in this relationship. Even if you want/need the "payoff" (once you figure it out) there might be a better way to get it. So there you go, "real, tangible advice."

BTW -- that's all relevant whether you're still with him or not, because all those things are about you -- and why you've put yourself through this. If you don't figure that out; well, history repeats itself. People are remarkably predictable that way. I'm just a guilty of it as anyone else.