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AP#1 was 21 fwh was 31

AP#2 was 33ish and fwh was 32 when it began, lasted 2+ years

AP#3 was 34 fwh was 34

AP #4 was 27 fwh was 35

Intended AP5 was 19 and fwh was 35, but she not only turned him down but turned him Into HR for sexual harassment and he was fired. She's my hero.

My WS always usually picked the older ones. First one was 7 yrs older, age 62, him 55. Next 2 wannabes were about 12-16 yrs younger. Current one is 77, 13 years older.

I guess he cant make up his mind.

[This message edited by SweetheartVixen at 9:15 PM, June 9th (Sunday)]

OW was 18, WXH was 32. I was 34.

I don't think age usually enters their head...more personality and availability. If the OW makes them feel all fresh and new, she's their real soulmate, don't you know? >.<

My husband had women younger than me but not terribly so until he found the almost virginal (had only been with one man, her husband) 21 year old...I was 35 ish, depressed out of my mind and had had four kids. I'd gained a ton of weight from antidepressants. It was a mess.

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I was 37.... and for the first time felt really old. []/quote]

This.

The last debacle was with an individual 3 years older than me.

Really, it all sucks. The older woman was cunning and plotted to have my life. The youngest one was just a ditzy girl who wanted my love as much as his. I don't fault her...there was nothing malicious on her part. Nothing was hidden but it wasn't welcome by me at all. She didn't know this until I blew up. The older woman had full malicious intent.

It's the person, not the age but I fully understand the pain of a much younger OW just adding to the general feelings of not being good enough :/

Get the barf bag ready. My WH was 70 and the AP was 25.

Disgusting.

At the time I was 32 he was 30 and the wannabe OW was 21.

We had been together for 5yrs at that point and one thing Wannabe said was that she wished she had met my fiance SIX years ago, so that SHE'D be "the girlfriend". Six years ago at the time, she'd have been 15 and he'd have been in jail!

WH was 40 when A started

OW (monkeyface) was 47

Me 48

Now,

WH broken

OW who cares

ME escaping!

OW was 50 and looked even older. She is older and both me and WH. I have found out since that there is an abundance of single women without morals in their 40s and 50s.

I can only list the OW that he had sex with but they are:

#1 OW was 29 WH 31

#2 OW was 48 WH 32

#3 OW was 44 WH 32

#4 OW was 28 WH 32

#5 OW was 21 WH 32

#5 OW was 26 WH 32

The only thing they had in common was a willingness to whore themselves out on Craigslist.

I'm 27 years old and have never cheated.

My WH's APs were the same age as us. He cheated when he was 19 and again at 26 years of age.

most 20-somethings seem to have a much more laid back attitude to "hooking up". It is probably part of why they think nothing about hooking up with a married man.

^^ I disagree. Age has nothing to do with it. If they have that attitude in their 20s, it's very likely they will be like this in their 30s, 40s, and on unless they change that part about themselves.

H was 52..ow 22..wtf???

I'm in my twenties and my F is in his forties. The OW is in her 30's. I think it is more about who's available and less about age. I know lots of older women and men who are AP's or have been at one time.

[This message edited by anonymous823 at 12:00 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday)]

My wife was 41 and the other guy was 39.

A funny thing about my wife and her two best friends. They each had a boob job in their late 30s, and each had an affair within two years. New appearance = more self esteem = more attention = more self esteem = more opportunity = affair!

The one that I know of for sure, she's several years older than me.

my husband's ow is in her 50s...(and is aging terribly by the way...ugliest thing you ever saw)....but she is 15 years older than we are.

OW is 5 years older than me-and 3 years older than WH

I just have to chime in on WhiteCarrera's post. More self esteem does NOT equate to an affair. As a matter of fact, it is usually LOW self-esteem and a need for validation that leads to an affair. And, many women (and men) have lots of opportunities but do not have affairs because they have self-esteem, ethics and boundaries.

My Ex is a desperate loser. Age means nothing. If OW was old enough to be his momma, he would have still done what he did. All that was needed was someone...anyone...to stroke his ego and make him feel like the special-snowflake he believes himself to be.

I don't know OW's age. At first I thought she was about our age (maybe a little younger) but then I saw a picture of her face up close. *If* she is about my age than her hard life and drug abuse has shown fully on her cockeyed face.

I don't know what age Miss Piggy is. But do you count in "pig" years like you do with "dog years" when estimating the age of dog? If that's the case, I'm even more clueless, then.

My wife was 46 at the start (depending on the actual start date), her AP I believe was 40. I know they celebrated two of his BDays with special gifts from her.