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Good idea on therapy.

If you still have trouble eating get some of those protein shakes.

Take a few months off from dating.

Unsure

Yes she was devastated . You know why??

Because she knowingly flirts with this guy, ignored your attempt to ask her to squelch it because she was attracted to him, accepted his dinner invitation without telling you, went back to his place and banged him.

And she expected her confession to make it all right that she had done what she wanted . She expected you to "understand" how great she is because she confessed

Did not quite work out the way she planned . Get whatever therapy you need but you made the right decision

good for you. You did the right thing. She will be ok. Maybe she won't do what she did to the next guy.

She is probably a good person who screwed up. However, only 5 months, there is little to lose at this point.

Good luck and keep good morals that you have

She is probably a good person who screwed up. 

Respectfully, I doubt it. Without basis people accuse others of doing the very thing they are likely to do themselves. It's quite a "tell". When she expressed fear of him cheating in the past, she was projecting who SHE was on to him. Her A just brought it to surface.

And so far from what I've observed, when the wayward stated that their ex in a previous relationship had cheated on them the truth was later divulged that it was in fact the opposite. It is not definitive, but for the "projecting" wayward I would say there was a good chance that they were the cheater in their previous relationship. Just claiming to be the betrayed helps compartmentalize the past behavior and cleanup their role in that past infidelity. Hell, my XW is laying that groundwork for the M rewrite to this day! I'm certain I will be sharing a beer with her future XH and apprising him of the truth soon after his Dday.

Unsure, 5 months in and this woman already dabbles with betrayal. We all know how incredibly painful it is to be on the receiving end of betrayal, and it is especially excruciating when years of history and kids are mixed in. Your GF not only CHOSE to have sex with this guy, she RATIONALIZED it. Hell, as crazy as this may sound you might even find out later that in fact you were the unwitting OM in your situation and your XGF had an on and off relationship with this OM before you two met. Don't let her tears fool you.

IMO, you did the right thing and severed the relationship. IMO, no one deserves to start a relationship with infidelity as part of their history. The only way I would maybe even entertain giving this person a second chance is after a few years of her practiced abstinence and she lives her life like nun. That isn't ever realistic, life is too short, and I'll bet you will find a much better woman who cherishes her relationship with you before your XGF ever floated back in like Mary Poppins.

If you ever need to just hang with us BM to help you work through the post-breakup, vent, or get some good beer recs come hang with us in the "I Can Relate" forum in the "Betrayed Men" thread.

Stay STRONG! Going through same. I'm much older, but recognize even at our age my ex (at 50) ain't gonna change. These people never do. He was doing same at your SO's age and never stopped. You're young in the greater scheme of things...you can't see it now...but YOU DID THE RIGHT THING. After the dust settles, it takes power to refrain from contacting...but don't. It will be same story, next chapter. Proud of you, boy. Not derogatory.

I think you have saved yourself a lot of future pain. No matter that she loves you, she doesn't get to abuse your trust.

Maybe she has learned something. Who knows. You do not need to be a doormat now so rock on.

Unsure, glad you became sure. Good call, but still a tough one. Strength being sent your way.

Unsure you did the right thing.

Maybe she will learn from this and seek help for herself through therapy or whatnot. But you just keep pushing forward and being the good guy you are. I believe you will one day be rewarded with an angel among women, a woman who will respect you and treat you like you deserve.