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but to spare him from that hurt.

Don't you see, he has already been hurt, he just doesn't know it yet. By you supporting the person that hurt him, you're just piling on more hurt. I'm telling you, he's going to find out eventually. When he does, do you think he is going to see you as someone that protected him, or someone that deceived him?

This website is filled with thousands of people whose cheating spouses thought they would never be found out. Your son's girlfriend has been repeatedly cheating and lying to him. Why do you think she is going to stop now? Because she told you she made a dumb mistake and it won't happen again. Please don't be that naive. Your son deserves to know the type of woman he is dealing with, so he can make his own informed choices in life. You're making this choice for him and it's not right. He's a man now and he needs to learn to deal with these situations.

Like I said, if you don't want to believe others here that have been through this, then that's your choice. At the very least, please seek guidance from a trained counselor on how to handle this. I would just hate to see your family relationships ruined because of some girl that clearly does not have the best interest of your son at heart.

Like I said thanks for the advice but I think it's best to let LIFE be his teacher as harsh as It may be. You can't always rely on other people

You can't always rely on other people

Yes, but you should be able to rely on your own Mother and sister for God's sake!

Like I said thanks for the advice but I think it's best to let LIFE be his teacher as harsh as It may be. You can't always rely on other people

So then why come on a site like this and ask the question, if you have the answer already???

[This message edited by LM2017 at 12:24 AM, September 17th (Sunday)]

If your son learns the truth, he'll have 2 women to blame for his pain and feelings of abandonment.

Like I said thanks for the advice but I think it's best to let LIFE be his teacher as harsh as It may be. You can't always rely on other people

You'll soon find that life has some harsh lessons for you too.

Harsh lessons on me?? Like what?? Not my fault it's happening

This girl could be KILLING your son...

She could be passing him any number of diseases and your lettinf it happen?!?!?!

YOU COULD BE AN ACCOMPLICE TO THE MURDET OF YOUR OWN CHILD

What will your answer to your son be when he asks why you didn't tell him? Do you really think his girlfriend will not tell him that you knew?

I would tell him the same thing that I said here. Hell understand. She and his friend are in their way here.

Not my fault it's happening

Actually, you are partially to blame and an accomplice because you helped cover things up and didn't try to stop it.

[This message edited by HardenMyHeart at 12:49 AM, September 17th (Sunday)]

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Betrayal is an unforgiveable act for many. If a family member knew I was being cheated on and didn't tell me, that would be a betrayal I would never forgive. Fortunately, my kids and I have each others' back, and my DD was the one that told me about two of her fathers' affairs. She was afraid to tell me about the first one because she didn't want to hurt me, but she stepped up and did anyway because even she knew, at the tender age of 18, it was the right thing to do even though the OW was her BFF's mother. Her loyalty was, rightfully, to me. I am eternally grateful she did what she did, and she knows it.

Betrayal is a tough pill to swallow, and some can't.

I'm going to ask her if she wears protection or not to be sure.

Why do you care if she does? Seriously

I'm going to ask her if she wears protection or not to be sure.

Condoms do not stop all sexually transmitted diseases, such as HPV and others. That's why we are all so worried about your son. This girl can actually cause your son physical harm, with or without protection. A mother's job is to protect her son, both physical and emotional.

I'm not sure why you are asking if you should share what you know. I didn't read replies.

Of course you should. It's going to be crappy - but he deserves to know.

Worriedone72 said

I'm going to ask her if she wears protection or not to be sure.

She will lie: cheaters lie a lot.

Protection is not used in A sex 90%+ of the time.

SI has a double betrayal category, where the AP is a close friend.

With mother and sister both betrayers we are up to the quadruple betrayal category. Congratulations, you may be setting a new record here.

So did you protect him from playing in traffic or touching a hot stove when he was a toddler, or did you let life be his teacher?

This has been going on for 5 years. What makes you think it's going to end? He may marry her and have kids with someone who's still cheating on him and you could have prevented it.

Personally, I can't believe this is real. But if you are, it's your job as his mother to tell him. He may not believe you at first, but it is your job to absorb that anger and protect him from further harm.

. I don't support cheating,but to spare him from that hurt.

Actually you are supporting your Son's Girlfriend in her affair. You are also lying to your son every time you see him, speak to him. You have been supporting affairs since the day you found out.

And you haven't spared him any hurt. You have added to it. He now knows that his Mum and his Sister aren't people he can count on. He now knows that his Mum and sister don't care about him enough to stop him from being cheated on.

You are just as much at fault as his Girlfriend and his Best Friend.

My son has left for outta town again. They are coming spending a few days here. They'll

tell him in time.