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norabird ( member #42092) posted at 8:23 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
What a beautiful poem. I love to think of your DS being by you and all of his loved ones as you go through life.
((((Phoenix & family))))
2oldforthis ( member #19825) posted at 10:53 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
Thinking of you today on this most difficult day. (prayers)
He did not see what he had in me, what I saw in him I did not have!
Love kills slowly.
mixedemotions ( member #35810) posted at 11:10 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
Phoenix, something that strikes me over and over in this thread is how full of grace you are. So warm and so authentic, it's really powerful. Thank you for letting us in, I'm joining the masses in standing beside you and wishing I could hold some of this pain for you.
To you and anyone else who may not have heard of this resource, some areas have support groups for survivors of suicide. When you're ready, there could be some people ready to connect with you.
Me: Former BW, 28
Divorced 10/11/12
He didn't show up for the D...very fitting, seeing as he didn't show up for the M, either : )
"What did not demolish me simply polished me, now the clearer I can see" - India Arie
IWantDoOver ( member #39440) posted at 11:16 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
As I was finishing it, I received the news that bro and SIL have been found. I now have to share that heartbreaking news on the same day I welcome DS home.
Phoenix, I encourage you to lean on others in your time of grief.
Additions prayers being offered in silent support.
metamorphisis ( member #12041) posted at 11:26 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
I'm with the others, so many of us, just wishing for any way at all to carry some of this for you. We aren't ever going to stop listening. You keep posting, and we'll keep responding. That's an ironclad deal. So many of us are here and listening. It's small comfort if any I am sure. But you are not alone.
Go softly my sweet friend. You will always be a part of who I am.
SweetheartVixen ( member #4956) posted at 12:03 AM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
((((phoenix))))
I use to write poems on Christmas and various cards. It was such a release of emotions when I wrote dealing with tragedies.
I know it doesn't take the pain away but I think its a wonderful helpful thing and the poem is beautiful.
You are so strong. You are in my thoughts an prayers daily Phoenix. HUGS
BS/60s WS/60s Divorcing and not soon enough~!
Its nice to be important, but its more important to be nice...
DD 6-14
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 12:09 AM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
I'm with the others, so many of us, just wishing for any way at all to carry some of this for you. We aren't ever going to stop listening. You keep posting, and we'll keep responding. That's an ironclad deal. So many of us are here and listening. It's small comfort if any I am sure. But you are not alone.
THIS ^^^^^^
I've been searching for words. There is no understanding this but please know that we are all here as long as you need.
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 12:12 AM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
(((Phoenix)))
Once again, I find myself at a loss for words in this situation. Just know that we are here for you.
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 12:16 AM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
Thinking of you, Phoenix. Thank you for sharing the beautiful tribute with us.
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
devasted30 ( member #39439) posted at 1:00 AM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
And remember Murphy is right. Nothing is so bad that it can't get worse!!!
Yme ( member #239) posted at 1:44 AM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
I am speechless by the immeasurable amount of grief that has descended upon your lovely soul. You and your loved ones are in my thoughts and prayers.
"Wipe your mouth. There's still a tiny bit of bullshit around your lips."
PhoenixRisen ( member #35912) posted at 1:58 AM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
((((Phoenix and family))))
We are all here for you
gettherefromhere ( member #22932) posted at 3:34 AM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 4:55 AM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
Pheonix, I am so touched by your poem, it is beautiful, and I know you feel it so deeply as true.
I hope you find a shoulder to lean on in each moment when you need support through this awful day, and also it's clear you do know your DS is there with you.
We are here for you too. I'm sending hugs and peaceful thoughts through the ether to you. Hang in there lady.
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
LivinginLimbo ( member #35004) posted at 1:50 PM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
There truly are no words for the unimaginable loss of your son. The poem is a beautiful tribute that I'm sure will be a comfort to those who loved him.
I'll be praying for your family.
BS - 65
WH - 63
Married 37 years
D-Day 2/12/12
D-Day 6/1/16 Caught him back online early enough that no physical contact took place but still devastating. This sucks.
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 1:59 PM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
Oh Phoenix.
((HUGS)) 
itainteasy ( member #31094) posted at 2:09 PM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
What a beautiful poem.
(((((Phoenix))))))
She11ybeanz ( member #27457) posted at 4:06 PM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
You cannot hug me or stroke my hair,
but know in your heart that I am there.
This gave me chills and made my heart break. ((BIGHUGZ)) So sorry for your loss sweetie... he will always be with you in spirit! <3
Sending you lots of strength....
Beautiful poem.....absolutely beautiful.
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 4:23 PM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
((Phoenix))
Holding you in my thoughts today. Hope that you made it through yesterday.
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
neverdidithink ( member #40568) posted at 4:54 PM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
(((Phoenix))) Your strength through all of this is inspiring.
BS, 57
M 13 years
second marriage, second WH
4 kids in their 20s
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