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(((horizen))) - Far too many of us have stood where you are - well, barely standing... Please listen to these folks - Cee64D, Buffalo, isadora, jb3199 - what they are advising you to do WILL absolutely wring your guts with the most fear you can imagine - but, they are right on spot! I have seen many SI posters take the other path - not listening/following the advice of those who have been on this unfortunate journey - to only find that their efforts failed as was predicted. Turn on autopilot and give 100% to 180! I am living proof - as are many - that this IS what it takes, ultimately. Does this always work? - NO. But, you will lose nothing by turning around - it's where you will find yourself - YOU! I turned on the 180 engine the day after Dday - visited an attorney 2 days after that. Standing that ground was the single most difficult thing I have ever done - EVER! We were one week away from the divorce hearing - when the seas turned - the fog, cleared. I NEVER expected this - didn't plan for it - had been planning for just myself - when what all of these folks are saying became the truth. R is still a jagged climb - no doubt - but we're moving through it to move over it. I simply cannot and will not attempt to imagine what it's like to experience this with children - as we have none. My heart breaks and bleeds for all parents who face this, the ultimate, challenge of the human experience. Flip the switch - as scary as it may be - in the end you will retain your dignity - and will be a better man & father. You do have friends here. Prayers for you & your children.