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!!!!!

(applause)

Enjoy that stunned look. Revel in the strength you have to know you displayed.

You Da Man!!!

And here it comes...

A phone message insisting we talk.

Followed two minutes later by a text saying the same and accusing me of evading her.

(Chirp)

Nice job!!! Have you been working out? I can see you getting stronger from here I bet she can too and that is scarring her sh*tless.

Is there any way you can give any incoming calls/texts from your WS a special (annoying?) ringtone, so that you know NOT to look at your phone right then? It might make it easier to get through the weekend while ignoring the incoming barrage.

Fourth time she's called.... I have not responded.

I have as her ringtone crickets chirping. :-)

I have as her ringtone crickets chirping. :-)

You are my hero today AD...

Believe it or not, you are commanding she show respect for you & you are respecting yourself not to engage in the mire your wife has made of the marriage.

I am learning a lot by everyone's posts to you. You are showing her the reality of her life w/o you. I know it seems strange to be doing all this, but really strong people do just what you have done.

She knows where help is if she ever wants to change, but when you (and I) "helped" our WS, it was really enabling them.

Keep up the strong you,and just because she "wants" to go into the house doesn't mean she gets to. I think that was what really started to shake WS.

Be calm inside, you are being "real".

Believe it or not, you are commanding she show respect for you & you are respecting yourself not to engage in the mire your wife has made of the marriage.

I am learning a lot by everyone's posts to you. You are showing her the reality of her life w/o you. I know it seems strange to be doing all this, but really strong people do just what you have done.

She knows where help is if she ever wants to change, but when you (and I) "helped" our WS, it was really enabling them.

Keep up the strong you,and just because she "wants" to go into the house doesn't mean she gets to. I think that was what really started to shake WS.

Be calm inside, you are being "real".

I have as her ringtone crickets chirping. :-)

Pragmatically hilarious.

I have as her ringtone crickets chirping. :-)

I did this when ex-shat was throwing his 4 day mantrum when I stopped taking his calls and insisted that he text, email, or talk to his lawywer.

Whew. Got through my co-dependent urge to respond to her calls and texts and now I am going to sleep.

(And even though I told her to email me with whatever is so urgent that demands we talk immediately, ...no email.)

My son just texted me from his mom's apartment that he is having "a horrible time." This is typical. He wants to be home with me. I really hope I am able to win more than 50/50 even if my wife does have a job that enables her to technically be with them 50% of the time.

It's probably nothing serious, but I feel bad. Poor kid. ((She's probably bitchy because I've ignored her.)

Believe it or not, you are commanding she show respect for you & you are respecting yourself not to engage in the mire your wife has made of the marriage.

Hey Abbondad, just wanted to chime in here and tell you that you are doing more than awesome. Yes, that stunned look was her at a loss when she found that her familiar tactics would no longer work on you. Good for you my man, you've turned a corner in your journey.

I have as her ringtone crickets chirping. :-)

Well done my good man, well done!!!

[This message edited by mrmaximum at 1:00 AM, July 28th (Sunday)]

So I got a text in the middle of the night: "I have to fly out of town for work unexpectedly. Can you take the kids."

Of course I can--I am happy to.

But I had the kids for six days, she comes back, has them for less than twenty four hours.

And this is the woman who is demanding 50/50.

Just more justification for what I am doing. It never stops piling up.

Add it to your documentation.

Does this mean she got the job?

Add it to your documentation.

Does this mean she got the job?

It has been documented.

I assume she has taken the job.

I hope so. The kids need the money and I will have them the majority of the time.

STBXWW has not officially taken the job.

Says she won't if it means she can't have 50/50.

She asked me if I have an attorney. I told her yes. She is furious, "Can't believe I am doing this, spending all our money on this when she wanted mediation."

I told her I will come for the kids, as she is leaving town today and won't be back until Thursday.

Please, be gentle. I am doing the best I can.

She is not furious that you're "wasting money." She is pissed because she knows once attorneys get involved she won't be able to manipulate them,the way she has you.

So..she wants to tke a job where she ill be traveling quite a bit..yet thinks she should have 50/50 custody?

And..she thinks she's a good mommy...despite the porn pic her son found of her that she sent to the man she was cheating on daddy..and her kids..with..then took these kids to meet this POS?

She is delusional.

NCNCNC.

Guess she shouldn't have cancelled the mediation meeting if she wanted it so bad, huh?

Her fury is irrelevant. Ignore it. And I'm guessing too that her threat not to take the kids if she can't have them 50/50 is a bluff. If the wording you report is what she used, the "officially" is a giveaway. My guess is she's accepted the job. In any case, she can't handle them 50/50 now, presumably before she's begun the new job. So she's unlikely to get 50/50 anyway. Once she realizes that, she'll have no reason to turn down the job.

Bottom line is, she can do what she wants wrt the job. You can't control that decision, so don't waste mental energy on it. But you can keep documenting what actually happens, including the picture of her tits, and present that in D proceedings. I'm guessing you end up with more than 50% regardless.

No 2x4's here, but don't give her any more information than you already have. You don't HAVE to respond to her questions or anything she says. You CAN simply not communicate with her.

So I'm guessing asking you to take the kids was what was so important that she "needed" to talk to you about.. And she wanted to "say" it instead of "write" it, so there wouldn't be solid proof of it.. You did great dad, email/text ONLY, so now there's proof of her asking and you obliging..

My POS tried this just a couple months ago. He texted me some polite things, then said he wanted to "talk" about the schedule at the dropoff. I told him "No, just email me your request." So he said "nevermind" and bitched me out. Then the kids come home that night angry with me that I told the POS "no" to a schedule change he never even asked me about, and I come to find out that he wants me to drop off the kids with MOW at a comic book store so they can play in a hero clix tournament (he can't take them since he works). Um, hell to the no, and screw him for trying to make me look like the bad guy, knowing I would say "no" in front of the kids. And screw him double time for bashing me to them with more of his lies..

You're doing great dad. Keep insisting on email/text only, and you can PM me if you have an iPhone and need a program to download and save all your texts in Excel format..

Hugs..