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This is just mind blowing to me.

Just last week we were out with with a guy friend and got talking about past relationships and Xso tells our guy friend how this woman preferred her dogs over him, how he was growled at and bitten when he wanted to lay down in bed, how there was no intimacy and friendship, how she made him do all the improvements to the house while she was out drinking wine with her friends and how he felt uncomfortable in the presence of her pretend upper class crowd and that she had a restraining order taken out on him after their split.

I guess what do you care about what you said yesterday....plus, let me be mean - he traded a Porsche for a Kia. Holy moly. I am starting to think he was just flattered that a fairly attractive, much younger woman wanted to be with him. And that was that.. She is the safe bet, friends with all his friends, adult children, a place he can readily move in.

But seeing this tonight has helped me leap forward to a point of "so what"? He was postering in church, loud mouthed, laughing too loud and desperately trying to be funny. What was I thinking?

[This message edited by fraeuken at 11:31 PM, September 17th (Tuesday)]

He is also a Kia, up on blocks with no engine. He deserves the stupid shit he was describing last week, doubly so because he signed up for it again. You are so much better off, good riddance.

Not a Kia but a Yugo .

A friend just sent me this and I am really wondering if my picker is that broken, because xSO fits this description to a 'T':

http://www.lovefraud.com/anderly-publishing/red-flags-of-love-fraud/red-flags-of-love-fraud-chapter-5-the-sociopathic-seduction/

Stupid, stupid me.

Good article, fraeuken.

So, I was thinking about how your Xso treated you at the bar. You handled it with grace and dignity. But if I was your friend and I was there, I would have had your back. This is what I would have done.

Walked over to him, with drink in hand, and told him:

"Fraeuken only wants a real man. And you're not. You are a scared little boy in a man suit. You also think you are so "hot". Hope this helps cool you off (as I am pouring drink in his lap). Oh, btw, I have heard you have a small, limp dick, too! Buh-bye!"

You're not stupid, but now that you can see the red flags, you will become a better dated. I married my sociopath and spent years with the parasite. You escaped relatively quickly, and now have more knowledge to make better choices next time!

Sister, my friend and actually two others were ready to confront. I told them not to because I saw how drunk he was and he is a mean, violent drunk and I did not want anybody to get hurt.

I have seen him sliding back into drinking the last few weeks after he got off the meds for his sepsis. He had been on his best behavior I think and then could not keep it up. Who knows what other issues there are, I know I dodged a major bullet the more I think about it.

You have great friends, fraeuken. I am sure you made the wise decision to ask your friends to not confront. I just hate when people behave badly (especially in public) and they aren't called on their bad behaviour.

As I have said, you are a dignified woman with lots of grace and class. (((fraeuken)))

This is getting weirder by the day. He managed to leave me a voicemail from another number. Claims that he never knew I was at the event?!? Dude, I asked you to order me a drink, you talked to me!

Also claims I read the situation totally wrong. Again, what did I read wrong about him not telling me he was going to the party, flirting with his ex, ignoring me, not answering his phone and him having been with her since that day?

Also, he states he is done based on my crazy actions that day which included leaving the party without making a scene, leaving him a calm message that I did not appreciate his actions and that he could collect his stuff and leaving him a note telling him that my boundaries were violated and that I felt humiliated by the man I loved and that I wished him nothing but the best but that things were over.

Call me crazy, should I have stayed and battled it out? Waited for him until he was done with her so be could acknowledge me? I don't mark my territory that way. If you don't want to be with me and I am cramping your style, I leave. I will not ever compete with another woman over man's attention. Neither would I ever make a man in my life have to do that. Jerk.

Also, he states he is done based on my crazy actions that day which included leaving the party without making a scene, leaving him a calm message that I did not appreciate his actions and that he could collect his stuff and leaving him a note telling him that my boundaries were violated and that I felt humiliated by the man I loved and that I wished him nothing but the best but that things were over.

Ex-squeeze me if I'm wrong but aren't YOU the one who broke up with him??? And, he is saying he is DONE? Awwww.....poor loser cheater boyfriend can't seem to handle the rejection of you breaking up with his deceitful ass after getting caught red-handed!!!! Go cry me a river and get the f*ck off of my bridge while I burn it down for you cause you ain't coming back this way choir boy!!!!

What did he expect you to do? Walk over to him and squat over his lap and pee on him to mark your territory at the party??

I think a good swift throw of red wine to his face might have been fun....(although a waste of good wine)...but she can keep that cheap piece of unclaimed land. There's a reason no one wants to put a flag on him.....apparently!

GOOD RIDDANCE BABY!!!

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 1:35 PM, September 19th (Thursday)]

What an asswipe - be glad you are rid of him. Now I know why I'm on the bus and will be for a long, long, time......

Now I know why I'm on the bus and will be for a long, long, time..

Me too! A year and a half going strong! Gotta love Duracell!!!

Gotta love Duracell!!!

I highly recommend upgrading to the plug in model, it lasts even longer.

Flushed! The things a bottle of sparkling wine makes you do

Pity you didn't replace his Viagra with a good,strong laxative....let little miss ex-girlfriend enjoy that one......

Sorry he is such a jerk...you are much better off without this asshole....HUGS

I will get the Duracells out. It was a nice 4 months break but our mechanical friends come without all the drama and without ex-girlfriends.

I am realizing how much time I have on my hands again now. I found all kind of fun meet up groups and will head to a beach weekend with a girlfriend in a couple of weeks. Yeah!

Call me crazy, should I have stayed and battled it out?

He probably expected a girl fight. That would've boosted his ego in his POV. His Ex was more than willing to play along giving you the look she did.

(((Fraeuken)))

So Mr "I guess I was looking for a soft spot to land" moved back with his ex-girlfriend only a few days after I told him to take a hike. His friends, who I run into in our small town, are all shaking their heads about his stupidity. I guess he ranks below the dogs yet again. Ah, the choices some people make

You said he was a mean, violent drunk so uh ... good riddance to him! He went to her cause he had no where else to go! Been there, done that!

Does not matter if he seen you or not....he specifically said:

that he did not want to go because he hated the place.

Then avoided your calls, etc.

Cricket this guy for good!

PS - there are plug in models?????

[This message edited by EvenKeel at 2:15 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)]

What a complete jerk/ass!

Sorry a POS like him was able to even get close to you and hurt you that way.