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Sal1995 ( member #39099) posted at 10:43 PM on Thursday, December 26th, 2013

Awesome, that's the best news I've heard this holiday season. Merry Christmas!

BH
Reconciled

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tesla ( member #34697) posted at 4:58 PM on Friday, December 27th, 2013

Yay! So very happy to hear this!!

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Tred ( member #34086) posted at 5:00 PM on Friday, December 27th, 2013

Awesome update PA!

Married: 27 years (14 @JFO) D-Day: 11/09/11"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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JKL Vikings ( member #32094) posted at 5:30 PM on Saturday, December 28th, 2013

Great news PA

Going to send the cancer a sympathy card in advance of the butt kicking it's about to get

Her- Alpha Female 42
Me-FWH 44
Married since '02, together since 2000
D-day 2/10/2009
3 sons- J- born Oct 2001
K- born Sept. 2005
L- born Apr. 2008
We ALL have issues. It's how we deal with them that makes the difference

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SoVerySadNow ( member #36711) posted at 1:46 AM on Monday, December 30th, 2013

Excellent news! I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and sending mojo your way.

Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

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Spelljean ( member #35624) posted at 2:26 AM on Friday, January 3rd, 2014

Thank goodness!

Sending good thoughts your way!

WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated

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 PanicAttack53 (original poster member #34195) posted at 10:27 PM on Tuesday, January 14th, 2014

Hello All!

First and foremost, thanks to everyone for the thoughts, prayers and Mojo sent my way. I really do appreciate it! Second, sorry for not updating this thread until now. My only excuse is that it's been a really trying week for me.

I had the C surgery & biopsy last Monday (1/6). Unfortunately it didn't go as well as I had hoped. They doubled the area they were going to remove as the C was very deep. The biopsy showed it in some other lymph nodes besides the sentinel node. All of these had to be removed and were also very deep. My left forearm looks like it had a huge chunk bitten out of it. If I had to guess, I figure I lost about 1/8 to 1/4 of my upper arm & under arm.

I'm currently in a full arm compression sleeve and also wearing a drain that was sutured in during surgery. I will be wearing both until 1/16 when I have my post-op appointment. I will also find out that day *if* I need to go on chemo as everything they removed was sent to a lab.

Although I am in pain and experiencing other normal stuff after surgery, the hardest part of this again is the waiting game. I've been so tired since the surgery I sleep about 3/4 of the day away. Don't know if that is just the anesthesia wearing off or some kind of depression setting in. I'm trying like hell to live in the moment... stay positive etc... but being totally honest, it's a losing battle some days. Today is the first time since last Monday I even felt like doing anything. I am trying to eat & drink so as not to get run down or dehydrated... so I guess that's a plus.

Well that's it folks. Sorry again for the delay getting this up.

All the best....

~ PA53

Me-BH Her-XWW | B/ 59 on D-day (11/17/11) | D final on 10/1/13 I'm Lovin' life again!
Rest of the story really doesn't matter any more.
“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have.” ― Eckhart Tolle

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 10:32 PM on Tuesday, January 14th, 2014

(((((pa))))) Continuing to send you strength and mojo for clear margins and good news on the 16th.

Your body has undergone a major trauma with the surgery. It's no wonder you are needing so much rest! Take it very easy. We're all pulling for you.

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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Crescita ( member #32616) posted at 11:16 PM on Tuesday, January 14th, 2014

(((PanicAttack))) I hope you get better news at your next appointment.

“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

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cass ( member #24261) posted at 12:06 AM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014

Rest and rest more. Your body is telling you this is best for your healing.

(((PA53))

DDay - April 2008
Me - 58 and doing great, alone.

Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket!

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jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 1:15 AM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014

(((PA)))

Sending you strength and mojo.

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somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 1:26 AM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014

..@PA53.. sending you TONS and TONS of Premium, 1st grade, maximum strength, A-1 quality, magic MoJo..

..sleep is medicine for healing so get lots..

..stay POSITIVE !!!!! I believe firmly and strongly in the POWER of POSITIVE THINKING..

..that's also..GOOD MEDICINE.. put your brain in "HEALING MODE"..

..prayers also sent to The MAN!!

smy

trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!

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painpaingoaway ( member #27196) posted at 3:26 AM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014

Stay strong PA. You can do this.

((((PA))))


D-Day June 2009
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

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Brandon808 ( member #35619) posted at 4:00 AM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014

Prayers for a speedy recovery.

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Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 4:58 AM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014

Sending mojo, good thoughts, and prayers. You will heal, and you will feel better in time.

(((PA53)))

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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HardenMyHeart ( member #15902) posted at 6:55 AM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014

Sending healing wishes.

ETA: I have been a malignant melanoma survivor for 29 years. This thing can be beat. Stay strong!

[This message edited by HardenMyHeart at 9:54 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)]

Me: BH, Her: WW, Married 40 years, Reconciled

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ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 8:00 AM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014

((((PA)))) too bad it didn't go as smoothly as hoped for, but k

eep hanging in there.

Sending you all the strength and mojo you need to make it through this difficult time.

((((PA))))

Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

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Edie ( member #26133) posted at 1:18 PM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014

(((PA)))

it sounds like you are being gentle with yourself - good.

Peace, quiet, pampering, care and rest, these are are what you need now.

Love and hugs being sent your way.

Edie x

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Tred ( member #34086) posted at 3:18 PM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014

PA,

I'll have a beer on my utility trailer for you mate. Got rid of the pick up so I don't have a tailgate anymore...the trailer is as close as it gets .

Hang in there and PM me if you need anything.

Married: 27 years (14 @JFO) D-Day: 11/09/11"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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5454real ( member #37455) posted at 3:23 PM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014

mojo brother mojo. you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle

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