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TheGuy123 ( member #59235) posted at 2:11 AM on Thursday, September 7th, 2017

Well if the OM is married and you expose it, then the OM bails on your old lady..well at least your old lady will be home to take the kids to school.

You are engaging her at that is not healthy

Time to 180

Time to expose this to family and friends....at the very least some can talk some sense into her and get her back to at the very least a mother.

You can't talk to her....you have to find someone your wife highly respect to let her know that her behavior is not healthy for the kids.

Dude your old lady is throwing this affair in your face and you havent exposed this?

Someone has to step in for your kids.....You need a lawyer so bad its sickening.

Stop engaging her and find the tools to get your kids a mother...like a lawyer or her family....you need some one to step in.

She has no more respect for you so please find someone WW respects so they can intervene on your kids behalf.

Once both spouses just stop caring...anything can happen and usually does.

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TheGuy123 ( member #59235) posted at 2:14 AM on Thursday, September 7th, 2017

You guys mat still be divorcing...but she is still a mother and not some other guy girl friend.

And thats the thing you no longer have the power to make that statement....it has to come from someone that your WW will actually listen to!

Once both spouses just stop caring...anything can happen and usually does.

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goalong ( member #57352) posted at 2:46 AM on Thursday, September 7th, 2017

I have seen D cases where "I never loved you although I married you" was a significant legal point. Check with your lawyer and try to get some proof, like a recording of her saying it.

WW need the attention of BS to fully enjoy cheating. BS's actions like filing D, 180 and asking her to hit the road greatly affect that mind set as well as that of the POSOM attraction to WW when he comes to know she is freely available and and has to shoulder responsibility

[This message edited by goalong at 8:47 PM, September 6th (Wednesday)]

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slater13 ( member #39008) posted at 3:50 AM on Thursday, September 7th, 2017

My thoughts

1- he is definitely married

2- exposure is key. Plant a VAR and get evidence

3- if you expose she will come out of fog. She is rewriting history with the I never loved you but. Dont believe it.

4-expose expose expose and expose. The light kills the things that live in shadows. Expose to her family and yours and notify the OBS. AFFAIR killer!!

5- 180 hard and make her earn back your trust.

You fail to see that she has all the power now. Take it back by 180 and exposure. Find out who he is. This is the only way marriage has a chance and you will recover so much faster.

The choices we make reveal the true nature of our character

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