Playing catch up.
I can't really answer the you've been around the block and your wife hasn't question. Take my age and divide by ten and that's the number of women I have been with sexually.
I think I am going to have a hard time trusting someone enough to develop a serious relationship with them. I believe it could happen, but she is going to have to be a wonderfully understanding woman.
Skin is what hold you together and as long as it doesn't feel like sandpaper I don't see blemishes as an issue. Remember in the end I am going to love you for who you are. Looks may catch my eye in the beginning, but that's not why I stay.
I seriously doubt anyone is going to suffocate from big boobs, but like others have said as long as we're not turning blue we are likely having a great time.
Often nothing is wrong is the correct interpretation and sometimes it is I have not finished thinking about what is bothering me so I can't give a complete answer or sometimes it was just a trigger that I know she doesn't want to know about, etc. One of the worst things for me is when I'm trying to figure something out is to get into a conversation with my STBXWW about it because the conversation usually ends up being about her instead of her being understanding and trying to help me figure out the nuances of the issue.
If I say I'm going to call I will call unless there is an emergency that prevents me from making the call and even then I will try my best and feel bad that I was not living up to my word.
I'm not certain if the white vs color is for us or you, but either way both is acceptable though a good mix is preferred.
A shower before is preferred if you haven't showered in days, but in general it is a don't care for me unless we are both showering and it's part of the prelude.
For the most part I only get what is on the grocery list, but I have been know to impulse buy things I know the family likes if I know we are out.
Yes I see dust and I know how to get rid of it on my own if needed.
I certainly understand none of us appreciate or look forward to your PMS time.
In general I don't spit in private so certainly would not do it in public. Yes sometimes something nasty gets in your mouth and spitting is appropriate, but I have never understood why some people have to spit so much.
Some talking is nice when making out, though too chatty can be an issue. Making noises during sex usually implies you are having a good time so is good positive feedback. A few short sentences during sex is fine, but I certainly don't want to have a full conversation at that point.
Have any of u been so lucky as to have never had to work for a womans affection/sex? Do men really not know how to seduce, and wait on their W for initiation? If so, how does this affect your M?
I understand intimate interactions involve two people and while I have not always been perfect I have tried my best to do my part. I am probably better at the grander gestures like romantic weekends/dinners etc. than the more subtle gestures. Though I will say it gets very disheartening when ones advances are routinely turned down because you are not in the mood, too tired or had a bad day. At some point we do want to just say well let me know if/when you get in the mood again. And like others have said your husband sounds really entitled. My STBXWW also wanted to act like she was the betrayed person and tried to make it all about her and how everything was my fault. Own your part to the marital dysfunction and no more! Like others have said do not take his abuse and manipulation.
I can't imagine ever getting desensitized to a woman who dressed sexy around the house, but I would sure be willing to see if it was possible. Conceptually I can see how it would happen since dressing sexy would become the new normal and normal has a way of becoming less special over time. For example I own a wonderful house with a massive fireplace and windows on either side that look out into the forest. I still appreciate that view when I see it, but it is probably not as special as it was when I first moved into the house.
Shopping for gifts is hell because there is some many different ways we can screw up. It's too big, it's too small, it's the wrong color or style, it's something I thought you would like, but you really hate it, it's not expensive enough, it's not romantic enough, etc. I always tried my best though there is certainly a lot of anxiety in trying to get a good gift.
I do eat healthy. I splurge on something every once in a while though I often go for a hike or do some other activity to compensate.
I think most men are slightly constipated because of their diet. I eat a well rounded meal and do not need to camp in the bathroom to take care of my business. In a public restroom you can hear guys grunting and groaning all the time.
I'm not certain why anyone would want to have lots of bad sex or no sex at all! Yes a quickie every once in a while might be needed, but for me sex is much more than just a physical release. I want quality as long as the quantity is reasonable and regular good sex would be appreciated.
Yes, once a week is not enough for everyone in the 50+ set. Some of us would still enjoy once a day or even more sometimes. Given my typically busy life a few times a week would be acceptable.
At my age being with someone who has had zero partners would likely be an issue though only having one who was a long term former spouse would not be an issue at all. Insecurity could be an issue depending on how you were able to deal with them long term. I guess what I am trying to say is being concerned/insecure in the beginning is okay, but if it became a long term problem that was not addressed then that would start to be a problem.
Plainpain. The simple answer. Your husband needs to get a clue!
Falling asleep before sex. I'll say that's just sad 
, but he could have woken you up when he was ready for bed. He choose not to and you tried to redeem yourself. I have to get up and go to work so would have been a bit annoyed being woken up in the middle of the night. Though maybe not. As far as I remember STBXWW never woke me up for sex. Could be a lovely way to start the day. To be safe you may want to add a little something special later for complete redemption.
I never felt used when we were trying to conceive and she had me doing all kinds of things she had read about. If it was going to help bring children into our lives I was game.
I loved my STBXWW long before we got married. It wasn't love at first sight, but it was certainly early in our relationship. That's one of the reasons her betrayal was so painful.
There is a difference between sexy and trashy. Sexy to me is in the tease/subtlety and trashy is more shoving your assets in my face. Sexy photos of someone I care about would be wonderful. I know someone who has full naked paintings of his wife in the common areas of their house. They put Post-it notes over certain areas when guest come over. To me the paintings are a bit over the top.
I can see having a picture of yourself in shorts or just underwear if your are working out and want to track progress, but other than this and especially given the naked and erect one screams something else. Your BS detector appears to be in great working order.
