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One of the first movies I remember watching after D-Day was The Kids Are All Right.

Sometimes you just rent something without knowing anything about it, and it doesn't work out....

Generally I can separate my feelings about myself from my enjoyment of a good movie. I enjoyed Kids even while triggering, and I enjoy good dramas, even when infidelity is important to the plot. I hate that the BS is usually portrayed as some sort of fantasy, but I can handle that.

My W triggers badly on everything, though.

UGH...Just saw American Hustle...and on date night! UGH, UGH, UGH. There should be a freaking affair safe rating on movies.

And one of the previews was for a new movie with Cameron Diaz called The OTHER WOMAN! About a wife who befriends the mistress! Seriously.

An Unmarried Woman

She Devil

The First Wives Club

Thelma & Louise - the horrible part was, because of the way the husband was acting, I thought it would be revealed he was cheating - and then she was the one who went and cheated on him! And then the OM taunted him.

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Supernova

The Dentist (thought I'd be watching a cheesy, turn-your-brain-off slasher flick...nope, the stinking movie practically begins with it)

The Prestige

Frequent Flyer is a movie about infidelity, but a good one. It may be hard for some to watch, but it does not glorify cheating. Just the opposite, in fact, and the end is very good, too.

The Curious Case of Benjamin Button

That Awkward Moment.

You know what's weird? I didn't even think about it while watching American Hustle. I mean, it's stated right at the outset that he's married and the Amy Adams character is 'his girlfriend', but for some reason that fact just went in one ear and out the other.

Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind

Gosh so many others… Thought of one earlier that's so common and forgot to write it here. Too many.

im one of those "tough guys" that actually loves "chick flicks". the more romantic and loving the better.

i thought bridges of madison county a good, sad film years ago when i saw it. i wouldnt watch it now if someone paid me too.

i used to love bridget jones diary. i saw her as a sort of "every woman". i watched it with my WW a week or so ago. i was okay with it up until her mom left her father to go with the guy on tv and it really, but really pissed me off when she came back and the father was like "oh, its so great to have you back and now i can take you out to dinner and dancing so you know how much i love you without any long term consequences to our marriage because you left me to go sleep with that guy for months and months."

The Big Chill

Up In The AIr

Went to pop in The Rocky Horror Picture Show after DDay. Was one of my favorites. As soon as I put it in the tray all I thought was "Dammit Janet".

WW suggested we go see The Princess Bride as they were doing the classics on the silver screen series at the local cinema...

At first I was like, ROUS's on the big screen!?! Of course...

and yet another movie......at least WW is realizing how many triggers I have now...sigh......

True Detective.

I was watching that with my husband right after I found out. He doesn't know I know yet. It's sort of bittersweet to watch true detective with him while one of the main character's is banging a chick and cheating on his wife. Interesting to jab at it and make comments about it to my husband..

Anyone else have trouble going out to see new things, be it movies or TV shows or plays, without reading spoilers first to make sure there's nothing triggery about them? Ruins a great many surprises, doesn't it?

American Hustle didn't bother me particularly. At least the husband was honest and begging for a divorce. Evidently before he ever cheated. What bothered me was the awful cheesy clothes and 70s music. Ugh.

This is really stupid but I had a hard time with Muppets Most Wanted.

Kermit gets thrown in a Russian gulag and nobody except Animal notices anything for months. The evil frog just gives everyone what they want while he uses them to rob shit. When one of them finally asks if Kermit is acting weird they all just say nah and go along with their muppet bullshit.

Miss Piggy doesn't even notice the difference until they're getting married and she realizes it was all too easy. Obviously she wasn't intentionally cheating on anybody but it felt like a fucking social commentary. Then at the end there's the rescue and big speech about how they'll never take him for granted again, etc, but, fucking A. It's the muppets, it's not supposed to be triggery, it's supposed to be fucking stupid.

Sorry, back to grownup shit.

The wierd thing in my situation is that I can tolerate watching things about infidelity, though it does get me a little worked up...even cheaters the show.

But my FWS LOVES WATCHING THEM AND GETTING PISSED! HE gets mad at the cheater!!! Sheesh, makes no sense!

I even find this thread triggery!

Let's see...The Ice Storm. And it's a tv show, but Mad Men is forever off limits to me now.

I used to love movies and often watched multiple a week. Especially foreign and independent ones. Ever since this all started I don't enjoy them at all or want to go see them even. It's strange and sad. I hope it comes back. That was a pretty consistent part of my life.

Sliding Doors

I bought this film as a Christmas Movie during the time WH was f*cking MOW. He sat and watched it with us all – the whole family. I don’t think I’ve ever got over that – how could he sit there and appear to enjoy this film when so much of it paralleled our life?

Gerry – Looks like fWH, also a writer and arrogant and weak and STUPID.

Helen – A bit like me, slim, fair, non-descript, quiet, supportive, faithful, NOT stupid.

Lydia – ex-gf, persistent, sexy, unpredictable, threatening, jealous, drives black Audi TT convertible (aarrghgggh!). Bitchface.

Best line for me: “You wanker. You sad, sad wanker.”

Also, Regarding Henry

Shattered (UK – Butterfly on a Wheel)

Intimacy