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Thankfulness and Mindfulness - Gateway to Self Healing

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soconfusednow ( member #40078) posted at 5:40 AM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014

IC

Colors

Flowers

Smiles

A comfy bed

D-Day January 2013
prior EA in the 90's
me 50's WH 50's
NC-several, last broken NC 7/2013 (?)
Married 30+ years, 2 kids
Want to believe it's over, but is it really? Will I ever trust again?

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solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 2:26 PM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014

1. The summertime polar vortex that makes it possible to have open windows as August approaches; I love hearing the crickets and frogs at night and the birds in the morning. I love being chilly under my comforter.

2. Kids who are as excited about school-supply shopping for me as I was about school-supply shopping for them.

3. The cute calico cat lying on my chilly toes. She's the most modest and least attention-whorish of my animals (except during parties, when she is the belle of the ball, while my clowny cat is more reticent), and I tend to take her for granted. But she always, always is by my side or at my feet in bed; the best purry hot water bottle ever.

4. The dopey (not really; he's brilliant but plays dopey for effect) canine who, in about an hour, will insist on the walk we BOTH need.

5. The former neighbor/friend who once again bailed my ass out by fixing something for me--this time the hot water heater that went kaput. He changed the thermocouple, and told me how (and when) to shop for the new one I will need soonish--and offered to install it so that I won't have to feel weird asking. I love him. He restores my faith in the goodness of others every time I encounter him.

BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams

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 Jrazz (original poster member #31349) posted at 7:05 PM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014

Yaaay!

Thank you so much for bringing this back up scn! Solus, I spat my water out at

"least attention-whorish of my animals (except during parties, when she is the belle of the ball, while my clowny cat is more reticent)"

LMFAO

1.) Matinee Movies

2.) Ibuprofen

3.) My gorgeous, brilliant, confident daughter who inspires me every moment of every day.

4.) Those little hand-held flossers

5.) Extra small ear-buds

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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neverdidithink ( member #40568) posted at 7:14 PM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014

Sunshine on my face

An opportunity to see the absolute crush of compassion, caring and community rallying when a newlywed friend's H was killed in a tragic car accident this week

Our children, who are 4 of the most amazing human beings I've ever had the pleasure to know

My WH, who is working hard to fix himself and the damage he caused

My youngest brother, whose kindness and generosity is finally being returned to him in spades

BS, 57
M 13 years
second marriage, second WH
4 kids in their 20s

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 Jrazz (original poster member #31349) posted at 4:51 AM on Sunday, August 3rd, 2014

1.) Lemons

2.) Rain

3.) New sheets and pillowcases

4.) Schick Intuition Razors

5.) Vineyard kittehs

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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tl502 ( member #42607) posted at 5:08 AM on Sunday, August 3rd, 2014

My beautiful daughters and how their smiles and laughter light up a room.

My abundant garden that feeds all the people I love.

My dogs and their unfailing love of life.

My mom and unconditional love.

The beautiful night tonight and the crickets and frogs that are singing me to sleep tonight.

Married 35 yrs.
dd1 9/10/2011 ea/pa
DD2 3/25/2013 same ow, never stopped email and phone contact.
Putting the past behind us and moving forward together

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VeilLifted ( member #34692) posted at 2:19 PM on Sunday, August 3rd, 2014

1. My 2&1/2 week old grandson (our first)

2. His mom, she sent me pics everyday of our 10 day vacation

3. My sons

4. I'll second the polar vortex. It has made the camping I've done with Boy Scouts lately and our vacation extra enjoyable.

5. My H

Me - BW
Him - FWH
DDay 10-29-11 2 month EA 1 time PA
He had ended it 10-28-11
Broke NC 12-20-11
S 12-21-11 filed D 1-4-12
R started/H moved home 2-8-12
2 wonderul boys 17 & 14(now 20 & 17)
Now we have a beautiful grandson!
Married 19 years(n

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 Jrazz (original poster member #31349) posted at 5:46 PM on Sunday, August 3rd, 2014

Good Morning!

1.) Travel, particularly an amazing trip I have to look forward to in October thanks to my mom.

2.) Costume Parties

3.) Wine barrels and their 1,000,001 uses

4.) Old friends

5.) New sheet music

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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Questioningall ( member #43959) posted at 5:52 PM on Sunday, August 3rd, 2014

1. I'm feeling at peace. I'll enjoy it as long as it lasts.

2. My husband is sober and working his 12 steps.

3. My children.

4. My garden.

5. The obnoxious pink, orange, and yellow sock yarn I bought yesterday that will make me smile all winter and the friend that got me out of the house to buy it.

Me-BS 57
Him-WS 57 Sorrowfulmate
Married 30 years, 5 kids
Dday #1 12/12 He made up a ONS
Dday #2. 3/14 EAs, 3 ONS, 2 LTA

Buttercup: We'll never survive.
Westley: Nonsense. You're only saying that because no one ever has.

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VeilLifted ( member #34692) posted at 7:31 PM on Monday, August 4th, 2014

1. My two nephews, one of whom opted to stay the night at my house instead of grandma and grandpa's last night! He is also the same nephew, who at 3 sat and patted me on the back, telling me "everything's gonna be ok, aunt veillifted" as silent tears poured down my face those first horrid weeks after dday.

2. Jrazz for starting this post. This has been on my to do list for months.

3. Our two new kitties. They make me laugh!

4. Laughing. It comes so far and few between any more.

5. Retrouvaille

Me - BW
Him - FWH
DDay 10-29-11 2 month EA 1 time PA
He had ended it 10-28-11
Broke NC 12-20-11
S 12-21-11 filed D 1-4-12
R started/H moved home 2-8-12
2 wonderul boys 17 & 14(now 20 & 17)
Now we have a beautiful grandson!
Married 19 years(n

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Imissmyhusb ( member #42734) posted at 3:54 AM on Monday, September 29th, 2014

- change

- abraham hicks

- youtube

- my kindle

- a good nights rest

Multiple d-days and TT
3 kids
me - Gettg my life back, him - idk him any more
~~~~~~~~~
I dont know why I stay. Need to figure it out

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1492 ( member #44831) posted at 2:45 AM on Tuesday, September 30th, 2014

I love this.

1. My family

2. My quarter horse (he has a wonderful sense of humor, but not to bright ) ;-)

3. My ragdoll cat ( 13 lb. hairball)

4. My home/ranch

5. Merlot and chocolate

[This message edited by 1492 at 9:25 PM, September 29th (Monday)]

Dday June 2012
BW age 63 on d day
WH age 64 on d day
2020 it’s been a long road

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 Jrazz (original poster member #31349) posted at 8:12 AM on Tuesday, September 30th, 2014

Thank you gorgeous people for reminding me about this thread! I feel bad - VeilLifted gave me a shout out and I disappeared!

1.)Sports Bras

2.)That padding in bike shorts

3.)Fall smells and colors

4.)My DD's hilariest sense of humor

5.)Getting to go to Tahoe in 4 days

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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sunvalley ( member #42952) posted at 8:32 AM on Tuesday, September 30th, 2014

1) my girlfriends - they are the most amazing group of women I could ask for, and lift me up no matter what.

2) music - it lifts me up even in my worst moments when the lyrics were too painful, I have such a passion for the impact and effects of song

3) camping - an escape, and even in the rough moments it reminds me that there were other annoyances to living with H prior to Dday...is it sad that I feel relief getting mad at him over the little things like doing the dishes or setting up a tent? haha

4) sunshine/nature - nothing cheers me up like waking up to a sunny day, seeing a rainbow or sometimes even a good storm

5) laughter - it can heal so many wounds even if for a few moments.

Dday July 2013
Me: BW mid 30s
Him: WH mid 30s
4PAs came from multiple onlines
Possible SA

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formerprincess ( member #44572) posted at 7:58 PM on Tuesday, September 30th, 2014

I really love this post!

1. My family (including hubby) & good friends

2. My health

3. Dancing & running

4. My big closet

5. Moscato & chocolate

Loved reading everyone's responses!

Me BS 50, Him WH 51
Married 30 years, DS 28, DS 23
Friends, then PA (3 times) March-May 2014
He ended PA 5/18/14
DDay 6/20/14, NC 6/25/14
Feeling hopeful/Reconciling
"Life does not have to be perfect to be wonderful."

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 Jrazz (original poster member #31349) posted at 6:47 AM on Wednesday, October 1st, 2014

1.) Rootbeer Floats (My own personal Mardi gras )

2.) The SI staff, who I heart

3.)Summer camp memories

4.)Youtube

5.) The fact that I can read super fast. (1/2 the book club book down, two days to go. No problemo.)

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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Sparkle0504 ( member #40379) posted at 7:11 AM on Wednesday, October 1st, 2014

When this thread started I was very "meh", but in a slightly better place now lol

1. My kids they rock and make me smile every day.

2. My H. Strange as it may seem. He's finally getting it, totally unexpected, baby steps of course. And between the stresses, he still makes me smile every day too.

3. My mum. She moved nearby recently and, although she's blissfully unaware of our troubles, she's unwittingly a great support.

4. The beautiful place I live - on the edge of a nature reserve.

5. SI. You're all amazing, thank you

Keep on keepin' on

Me 52 (BS) Him 60 (EXSAWH)
DDay (too many to mention), but 1st 06/2011
I'm done. Separated.

Time is always right, to do right. (Dr Martin Luther King)

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ReconcilingWife ( member #44420) posted at 2:19 PM on Wednesday, October 1st, 2014

1. My lovely, lovely children: their warm hearts, their beautiful smiles, their abounding health, their kisses and their hugs.

2. My FOO--sane, stable, loving. (Albeit sometimes incredibly irritating--but all the extra attention to WH's FOO reminds me what small potatoes the irritations are.)

2a. My sister.

3. Excellent therapists for me and WH. If the marriage makes it, it's in large part thanks to them.

4. My WH's enormous efforts to make things right.

5. My bicycle.

Me: BS, now 42
Him: WS, now 49
DD: May 30, 2014 (2 month affair)

2 children

Naively optimistic username (chosen in frustration when everything else I could think of was taken or too close to my real name)--but 2 years on, R is truly going well

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 3:39 PM on Wednesday, October 1st, 2014

1. DD15 singing and dancing every morning as we wait for the bus.

2. DS20's new job.

3. The DVR, which protects me from having to watch any ads, particularly during election season.

4. Apple crisp for breakfast.

5. Packing for a g2g.

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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limbohurts ( member #43818) posted at 3:31 AM on Friday, October 3rd, 2014

1. Snuggling up with my daughter tonight

2. Awesome yoga class tonight where i was

able to clear my mind for 60 minutes!!

3. SI community

4. kisses and hugs from my 15 year old son, even though he thinks he's too old, he still does it!

5. my girlfriends and a bottle of wine

Me BW
Him WH LTA
Married 18 years
2 kids
Dday March 2014
Divorced!!

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