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Steve23 (original poster member #69803) posted at 9:11 AM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
You skipped over the most important step before all that. Finding yourself. Finding autonomy.
Agree, I went from living with parents, to shared uni accomodation, met my wife at 18 and living together at 20. I never found myself, discovered who I was, never became an independent person capable of making my own decisions. I relied on my wife for my happiness.
Zugzwang ( member #39069) posted at 2:50 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
You know these things. So fix that. It will make everything else easier and authentic. Be vulnerable and ask your wife for help if you need it. Just become enough for you. Find you. In a healthy way of course. Not with some other women that might give you a higher percentage than your wife. You don't want to lose your family man. Take a small step now. Feel good about building yourself up by choosing to work for it. Get some integrity and honor by choosing the harder path. Stay with your family and make some real changes to yourself. Remember what you were looking for when you dated your wife. You were looking for what you already have. What men are looking for right now in clubs and stuff. A good woman to love and raise a family with.
"Nothing in this world is worth having or worth doing unless it means effort, pain, difficulty." Teddy Roosevelt
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