Topic is Sleeping.
wrangler (original poster new member #50008) posted at 3:13 AM on Monday, October 3rd, 2022
I'm 8 years past the last time I caught her. Things have been going well and my spidey sense hadn't been triggered. Until today.
During the discovery (8 years ago), I found an email account she was using and (without telling her) set it up to fwd all emails received to me. 2 weeks ago I received a receipt from Robox for $49.99 set to that email address and another today. Both show the last 4 digits of a Mastercard I don't know of.
I tried to log into the account but the password I previously used doesn't work. I then tried the forgot-your-password dance but that goes to her old work account from that timeframe which I know she doesn't have access to.
So, before I talk to her about it, what further action should I take to determine if this is a clue or bogus?
ME: BH late forties
Her: WW early forties
DDay1: 2007
DDay2: 11/29/14
She passed the poly: 4/11/16
Reconciling
Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 3:44 AM on Monday, October 3rd, 2022
Good chance the account was hacked. It happens. Best bet is to contact bank and Roblox.
Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown
MIgander ( member #71285) posted at 1:42 PM on Monday, October 3rd, 2022
I agree- rule out the hacking first. THEN (or maybe WHILE), ask your wife about it...
Looks like you've been here a while, so hopefully you're firmly in R. These things are going to haunt you, but hopefully your fWW can reassure you without getting defensive.
Roblox is weird- it's not a game that's convenient for text chat and mostly a kid thing... I think? Mine love it.
Seems odd. Did she disclose this email to you? Do you have above-board access to it? Or is she still playing games of hide-and-seek with you?
WW/BW Dday July 2019. BH/WH- multiple EA's. Denial ain't just a river in Egypt.
Robert22205https ( member #65547) posted at 3:47 PM on Monday, October 3rd, 2022
If you're concerned if your wife has a credit card that you don't know about, run a credit check on yourselves.
It shows all the accounts in either or both names.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 6:19 PM on Monday, October 3rd, 2022
I keep getting $400 invoices from Symantec for Norton AV or something like that. The email address is something like Symantec Payment Center (hacked-email-account-holder-name at some-random-email-server).
IOW, did the email truly come from Roblox?
I apologize if you know this scam. My very smart W has to keep checking with me about it, since she keeps getting the same invoices.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
wrangler (original poster new member #50008) posted at 4:22 AM on Tuesday, October 4th, 2022
The good news is it was fake. The bad news is I let the possibility cloud my judgment to the point I missed realizing it was a fake...even though I'm in the business of knowing how to spot fakes.
If only I could go back to the days before I ever had to deal with infidelity. So much of ...
Breathing.
Breathing.
Ok, I'm good. This wasn't her fault nor mine. Just more assholes trying to steal rather than work an honest job.
Y'all have a good night.
ME: BH late forties
Her: WW early forties
DDay1: 2007
DDay2: 11/29/14
She passed the poly: 4/11/16
Reconciling
Topic is Sleeping.
