I don’t know where to start or even where the proper place for me to both introduce myself and share why I am here. The short version is that my wife, who is the kindest most thoughtful person that I have ever known, during our 15th year of marriage, started a 1 ½ year affair with a good and trusted friend. D-day (Disclosure) was in our 19th year. I was crushed by a head on collision that I should have seen coming, but 100% trust set me up to be blindsided. It never even crossed my mind that this could happen to us. In all honesty, my wife didn’t think it could happen to us as well.
Though I am new here I’ve spent several weeks reading posts and paying close attention to people’s responses. Please understand, it wasn’t my intent to be a crawler, I just needed to figure out if this was a safe place to expose my brokenness. I’m sure I’m not alone in having my sense of safety shattered. I also wanted it to be a safe place for my wife. Not that she is on this site, but I don’t want her trashed, it just wouldn't be helpful. I hope that makes sense.
On a number of threads I’ve read it takes 2-5 years to heal and if one is attempting reconciliation, it may take longer. Boy, can I attest to that – much longer.
Thank you for taking the time to read about my situation, I look forward to both receiving and giving support in the healing process for, for me, it has been a long and lonely journey. I'm thrilled to be here.
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