Clueless non BS's love to blame the victim (BS) for
1) causing the A
2) Not finding out about the A sooner
3) Not being able to "get over it" in a month or less.
So, I will like to get on top of a soap box and vent my throat out ! 
It's just bullsh*t that so many people think that infidelity is funny and should be laughed at . F*ck all the sitcoms and movies where the BS is portrayed as getting in the way of the WS and AP "true love".
F*ck the fact that is much more socially acceptable to not tell the BS. F*ck the fact the people who do tell often are seen as a "snitch " or someone who "stabbed the WS in the back" by clueless non BS's.
F*ck all the misconceptions that blame the BS for the A instead of the WS.
Here are the f*cken misconceptions.
Before the A
The BS must have done SOMETHING to make the WS consider cheating.
That something may be
1) Not enough sex
2) A nag
3) Cold
4) Unsupportive
5)ETC to infinity.
During the A
How can the BS not know that the A is going on ?
How can the BS not spot the signs of an A?
How can the BS not know that they are being lied to ?
After Dday
The BS is dumb for staying with the WS.
The BS is vindictive and unforgiving if they divorce.
It is the BS fault when the BS can't "get over it" within a month or less.
F+ck that sh!t.
All those damn social norms and misconceptions that just f*cken adds insult to injury to an already hurting BS !
*Dorothy goes to the bathroom sink and washes out her potty mouth with soap and water*
