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My WH had a 2 year EA with a coworker which may have become physical (multiple hotel stays together and work trips spent at her home) but I'll never know that much. I knew nothing about this at the time.

He has denied everything and blamed my old fashioned views on opposite gender friendships, my over-sensitivity, and history of anxiety on his decision to hide it.

Every discussion turns into him being the victim and me being the unreasonable, controlling wife.

I'm in trauma therapy, trying to deal with the betrayal but getting nowhere. I know I'm being gaslit but I have no strength to fight him. My children are neurodivergent and going through massive transitions in education therefore I'm trapped here. I'm so lonely and broken.

Please tell me this will get easier. Any advice welcome

He’s not giving you much to work with. So you need to work without him.
Read up on the 180 and implement that. It will give your brain the space to detach from him. You will treat him like the business partner/roommate/co-parent and nothing more.

Keep with the IC. Look for ways to give yourself space. Can he sleep in a guest room? Start getting your ducks in a row- financial, support, all that. Today may not be the day you can leave, but be preparing for it when the time does come. See a lawyer or three also to make sure you know what D would look like in your situation. Knowledge is power.

What do you know about the AP? Is she married? Also, hard to believe that there was nothing physical at all over 2 years with overnights…

Keep posting -others will be by who did in-house separation and give your their advise,