steph (original poster member #11564) posted at 4:05 PM on Thursday, June 18th, 2026
So yesterday was our anniversary. True to form he ruined yet another one with a recent discovery within the past few weeks. I couldn’t handle celebrating but it is an important day so we did recognize it.
We were out and about and had a nice dinner, not overly special but nice. We did talk about our marriage, nice things about our lives, and how many years we had behind us vs how many we have ahead. He wants more anniversaries. He wants marriage to me. I told him that we don’t have all that many left so if he wants more anniversaries it’s time to get his fucking act together. I had been pleasant up to this point and really didn’t see any need to be polite about what I said. It wasn’t loud and nobody overheard.
True to form, he was defensive and said he didn’t think we had to bring it up where other people can hear. I told him nobody heard and nobody cares. We were able to continue with dinner and conversation.
Thinking about it today. I cannot recall anything I’ve done in my marriage that would embarrass me if it was talked about in public, absolutely nothing except not divorcing when I first found out but that’s another story and life is always clear in hindsight. So there it is, I trusted him with my heart and he broke it. Now, since absolutely no one knows, he has to trust me with his nasty secrets and hope I don’t embarrass him or tell anyone ever but really he did it to himself.
Me BS Him WSLTA too many years
Pogre ( member #86173) posted at 4:13 PM on Thursday, June 18th, 2026
I cannot recall anything I’ve done in my marriage that would embarrass me if it was talked about in public, absolutely nothing
I hate it when I think of the perfect thing to say during a conversation after the conversation is over. That would have been a great line to hit him with right then and there.
[This message edited by Pogre at 4:13 PM, Thursday, June 18th]
Where am I going... and why am I in this handbasket?
Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 4:54 PM on Thursday, June 18th, 2026
In 20 years you haven't told anyone? Why?
Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown
steph (original poster member #11564) posted at 5:10 PM on Thursday, June 18th, 2026
Of course I’ve been in counseling and we’ve had couples therapy. Outside of that trust issues and it’s nobody else’s business.
Me BS Him WSLTA too many years
WB1340 ( member #85086) posted at 5:11 PM on Thursday, June 18th, 2026
Too f'ing bad. He chose to have an affair and now he gets to suffer the consequences.
D-day April 4th 2024. WW was sexting with a married male coworker. Started R a week later, still ongoing...
