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kay09 ( new member #30447) posted at 7:28 AM on Saturday, December 18th, 2010
Thank you, for this. Deep down, I knew it to be true, but it's so nice to hear.
Going through the motions...
Together: 3 years
Married: Almost 2 years
Child: 16 months
D-Days: October 2010
Junebug0525 ( member #29142) posted at 3:48 PM on Sunday, December 26th, 2010
Me: BS
Him: WXH DDay-11/22/2009~ D~ 10/25/10
OWhore: Co-worker (7 years younger)
"Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together." AND THEY DID!!!
his_loss ( member #30423) posted at 6:21 PM on Sunday, December 26th, 2010
The whore in our latest case is a dropout, welfare collecting scuzzball, complete with a neck tattoo...she is 10 years younger than me but looks 10 years older. She is also crackhead/malnourished thin. She lost custody of her kids. Me? I have two college degrees and have worked my whole adult life. I don't smoke or have any tattoos. I'm hot as hell, I cook, clean, cut hair...I do it all! and he cheated on me with that?!? *edited for typo.
[This message edited by his_loss at 12:42 PM, December 26th (Sunday)]
Logic + reality = the path to freedom.
wordsfail ( member #30289) posted at 6:32 PM on Sunday, December 26th, 2010
AMEN.
And, may I add, in terms of "sexual prowess" (as I know this, too, is one of the areas a person's self-worth can be dealt a killing blow by a betrayer)...it's my humble opinion the vast majority of us could run circles around the OP (other pig) in terms of doing the voodoo that we do so well .
Remember - the only thing that is probably being blown satisfactorily is the betrayer's MIND (i.e. "ego").
SHE/ME: 40's
WSO: 40's
OW: x-BF, 30's
Met 11/06. Moved in 1/08. Engaged 8/09. EA 11/09. PA began ??. My Mom died 12/09. DD 2/8/10. WSO is with x-BF now. My Dad died 12/10.
webmistress ( member #29816) posted at 6:45 PM on Sunday, December 26th, 2010
Here here! Well said, and every word is true. It is pathetic. I was thinking about OW the other day and it occurred to me that if H had wanted her, he could have had her years ago. They are from the same town in CA, and he lived there for 5 months while we were dating. Did he seek her out then? NO. He got in his car with a suitcase, his dog and his cat and drove 3000 miles to ME. And even after the A....he got on a plane and still came back to me. So she's a two time loser. So so sad and pitiful.
Me: BW-43
Ex-WH: 36
Married: 6 years
DDay #1: 10/5/10, one week before our
daughters 4th birthday
DDay#2: 5/21/15
D official 2/23/11
Not sure where to go from here
OW 1&2:Delusional, stupid whores
Sofia58 ( member #30415) posted at 12:38 PM on Monday, December 27th, 2010
Thank you, thank you, thank you. This morning was a great morning for me to pick this post to read. I learned more about the A yesterday and drove by where she lives. The images of them in there are so vivid and painful I hardly made it through the night. Maybe this will help me have a better day today!
D-Day: 12/12/10
BS - 55, female
WS - 57, male
Married 15 years, together 18
"Forgive: sounds good. Forget: I don't think I could. They say, 'Time heals everything' but I'm still waiting."
Sofia58 ( member #30415) posted at 12:41 PM on Monday, December 27th, 2010
Thank you, thank you, thank you. This morning was a great morning for me to pick this post to read. I learned more about the A yesterday and drove by where she lives. The images of them in there are so vivid and painful I hardly made it through the night. Maybe this will help me have a better day today!
D-Day: 12/12/10
BS - 55, female
WS - 57, male
Married 15 years, together 18
"Forgive: sounds good. Forget: I don't think I could. They say, 'Time heals everything' but I'm still waiting."
cass ( member #24261) posted at 4:51 PM on Wednesday, December 29th, 2010
DDay - April 2008
Me - 58 and doing great, alone.
Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket!
LostandGuilty ( member #30493) posted at 6:04 PM on Wednesday, December 29th, 2010
The OM in my situation has no job, is addicted to drugs, has no driver's license, does not have custody of his own son (his sister does), is on food stamps, and has been arrested three times in the past 10 years for drugs. I am a banker with a steady job, have a bachelor's and master's degree, adopted the two kids from her previous marriage, and am very stable. He does have more muscle than I do, but I contribute that to him having ALOT of more time than I do. She can have him. I am filing for D very soon.
[This message edited by LostandGuilty at 12:24 PM, December 29th (Wednesday)]
"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on" - Robert Frost
BH (36)
DS (16)
DD (14)
IntuitionKnows ( member #30505) posted at 6:17 PM on Wednesday, December 29th, 2010
I thought this post would be about how he says there were only 5 or 6 instances of sex so there probably was at least 10. Or how he claims it was like J-off in another person since I wasn't giving it up when a 22 year old slut was going to make it fun or How it always just kinda happéned when they were hanging out but he would go over after his weekend night job so that's preplanned.
I thought affiar down ment the details.
I'm glad I read.
I am working on taking my place back at recognizing his love is for me his life is with me that I am raising our kid in a good environment. That I am who is the one at the head of the ppack.
Until it happens again in 3 yrs...
(edited to add: I understand my first thought was probably trickle truth)
[This message edited by IntuitionKnows at 4:59 PM, December 29th (Wednesday)]
The affair wasn't the worst...
gunnisonbrown ( member #30115) posted at 6:13 PM on Sunday, January 2nd, 2011
Had to bump this!! Too many BW's need to read it and understand the insanity!!
ME - BS - 46
WH - 51
Together 28 years, married 25 years
Two teenage sons
D-Day #1 - 10/29/10
dab110 ( member #29987) posted at 6:33 PM on Sunday, January 2nd, 2011
This is so wonderful! Thank you for bumping it up so that others can see it! The best part is that the OW actually told me that she thought we had a "loveless" marriage. When I saw those words, my mouth dropped open. However, I wasn't cold-hearted, I was a "very jealous person". Why? Because I didn't want some little ho-bag texting my husband all the time. Oh... And he said he couldn't meet up with her and her friends because I would get angry. What a crazy woman I am! LOL...
Me- BS 43
Him- FWH 49
Woke up late today and I still feel the sting of the pain
But I brushed my teeth anyway
I got dressed through the mess and put a smile on my face
I got a little bit stronger...
D-day: June 14, 2010
WAITING4HEALING ( member #21817) posted at 7:01 PM on Tuesday, January 4th, 2011
I love it!!!! It truly makes a lot of sense. Thanks for the inspiration and the rational with it.
Merlin ( member #30221) posted at 7:44 PM on Tuesday, January 4th, 2011
The OM in my situation has no job, is addicted to drugs, has no driver's license, does not have custody of his own son (his sister does), is on food stamps, and has been arrested three times in the past 10 years for drugs. I am a banker with a steady job, have a bachelor's and master's degree, adopted the two kids from her previous marriage, and am very stable. He does have more muscle than I do, but I contribute that to him having ALOT of more time than I do. She can have him. I am filing for D very soon.
Lost & Guilty,
I could have written this about my WW and OM. I did file right away though. You sure that our wives aren't seeing the same lowlife?
"I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A bird will fall frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself." D. H. Lawrence
Her: WW/57 Me: BS/63 24yrs M
3 great kids, now 22, 20, 17 b,b,g
D-Day 8/14/08, D 1/13/11
CB1971 ( member #30468) posted at 7:52 PM on Tuesday, January 4th, 2011
One of the reasons I finally decided to seperate and divorce is because I felt like I was the one who was with someone beneath me.
Go figure.
40, Former BH
D-day: 7/06
Divorced: 4/09
Muchstrongernow ( member #30169) posted at 11:14 PM on Tuesday, January 4th, 2011
WOW, I have to print this one!!!
NICE 
ps, this supports my theory on my H's passive aggressive tendencies
hard work pays off.... so does the emotional hard work.... happy me.... worry less, do more
gunnisonbrown ( member #30115) posted at 3:27 PM on Thursday, January 6th, 2011
Bumping again!! Too many BW's need to read this!!
ME - BS - 46
WH - 51
Together 28 years, married 25 years
Two teenage sons
D-Day #1 - 10/29/10
ajsmom ( member #17460) posted at 2:54 AM on Sunday, January 9th, 2011
Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
One AMAZING DS - 34
staying4thekids ( member #30521) posted at 3:05 AM on Sunday, January 9th, 2011
lost kiki ( member #29769) posted at 5:23 AM on Sunday, January 9th, 2011
This is my favorite Post i read it daily. Help to stop Obsessing dead in it's tracks.. So true in my situation..
Me=BS
DDAY I (Married Whore) 8/8/2010
TT 8/28/2010
DDAY II (23yo) 9/23/2012
TT 9/26/2012
NC 9/3/2010 After she and I spoke for 2 hrs..GRRRRRR!!!!
NC with #2 9/24/12
Struggling thru with my Head Held High..
I'm mov
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