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I loved it so much, I posted it on HER Facebook wall... Lol, I can't see her profile anymore so I'm guessing that she's probably finally blocked me 100%. F'n cow. I hope many got to read it before she deleted it.

cher, If she was to google the text, she would come straight here.

Wow, that's some powerful stuff. But, what about the OW my WS lied to?? They had no idea he was married, had kids, or even knew his real age.

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Some may call me a prude but......

Just after she found out she was pregnant to her boyfriend with her second child OW3's daughter posted this on her FB

OW3 "liked" her post.

She and the boyfriend then went on to discuss whether she deserved "cunnilingus" for the meal she had just cooked and whether he was entitled to a BJ in return.

All publicly on FB!!!

Maybe there is something wrong with me but I would curl up in a ball of shame if my daughter did that.

(BTW 60 yr old OW3 gave FWH a BJ each time they met. They would lie in bed, chat for a while and then she would say "Well there are better things I could be doing with my mouth" and then get to work EVERY TIME!!!)

By my standards he definitely affaired down.

Oh I love this! I havemsdeva copy and I sent it to OW via email ( she replied she agreed but she wasn't trash - I told her no she was dirtier than trash!) then FB to all her friends and family telling them who I was lol ! Felt good at the time

Well what happens if the OW is also married ?

I always have loved this thread. SO true!!

This is so true...my H left me for my best friend who has slept with everyone at work and in town..she is cronically depressed and cold person who has a bad childhood with a father who took her to his whores house as he cheated...my H has been with her one year now,,they both look like shit and he says he is so unhappy...he has ruined my life as well as his own...he has called me all year..giving me gifts, money and saying he wants us back,,but as he never left her and never leaves her side(they don't trust eachother) they sit at home alone..no friends...he has cheated 4 times in the 11 years we were together.she is nummbr 5..but thes other women were unaware he was married...this one knew

Saving a copy of this awesomeness!

Bumped for Phoebesma and other newbies in pain and confusion.

This is awesome, I love you.

Its even more of a zinger in my case because my WH had an EA that he begged for and destroyed himself for to be a PA (actually he wanted to live with her forever and ever blah blah blah) and she wouldn't go there. She stayed strong for her marriage and her son. Then he now, a year later, has thoughts of how she wasn't good enough for him.

I think I'm the only one on SI that admires the OW somewhat. Should she have flirted? No. Should she have pumped him all up? No. But I don't think he was truly "affairing down". Would I love to smack her for toying with him and causing him enormous work trouble? Yeah. I don't understand how she gets to be totally unaccountable there but oh well. Karma can deal with her. Meanwhile I'm enjoying the fact that he couldn't even get this right.

As I sit back and try and compose myself and my future this is one of the things I think of - it wasn't her, not this time, but there will be more because of all the things you said here - he's broken, unless he gets "fixed" I don't even want him, I can survive him, I just have to try and make the best decisions first for my son and then for me during a very emotional time.

I love this. This is very true in my case, each and every single time. WH even admits this.

I was talking with a customer at the bar about affairs a few days ago and he said, "If my wife is going to cheat on me, she could at least have the good sense to make it with Brad Pitt, or someone actually worth hurting me for."

I feel much the same way about WS's choice. Really? That chick with all the tatts who's dressed like a street-walker. Has 3 children by different father's and dropped out of high school. She doesn't even have a car. Her friends have to go pick her up. And she is supposed to be in promotions. How do you make a living when you have to depend on everyone else to get to work?

"She's actually a really cool person at the concerts and stuff.", WS said.

"What? When she's not being a home-wrecker?"

Before she had confronted me and told me what was going on, forcing him to tell the truth, I had seen their correspondences. "You got what you wanted from me and now you're ignoring me. I'm not like your stupid stripper girlfriend. I can see what is going on. No wonder I have such a low self-esteem and issues with me."

I thought to myself that you've got to have a low self-esteem to be pursuing a man who is in a relationship. If he is, in fact, going to end it, let him handle his business before you go pounding your dirty, blown out vag all over him.

Really? You wanted to have sex with that? Stretch marks, c-sections scars? Compared to the 100 lb center-fold you've got at home?

He always has attracted the lowest the of the low. Case and point, his ex was a crack-head.

THIS is what brought me to this site. I found it during a google search while looking for help. I have printed it out and read it every day!

FWW hooked up with an MOM that was about 100lbs overweight and looked like Shrek. Go figure.

Edited to add that I still hate all shrek movies.

[This message edited by tooanalytical at 7:35 PM, July 5th (Friday)]

When my husband told his two friends who he'd cheated on me with, one laughed in disbelief and the other said, "If you were going to cheat on her, you could have cheated on her with someone better".

I believe in this sentiment, yes.

But, OW in the case of STBX is walking off into the sunset with him and he is leaving a 20 year marriage, home he built, daughter and unborn child...all for this ...person.

Yet, I believe in the message of the original post here too, especially from the one brief interaction I had with her before I cut it off. She was ready to fight me tooth and nail for a cheating liar, while his wife is at home pregnant...and you know, OW knows he cheated on her with me, but I can't handle the pain he dishes out anymore.

I think I could write for many days on this part of the subject, but think this is true, too Edie.

And this "great catch" that STBX will pay and pay and pay, with money she won't get, until he is retirement age! He boasted of this house we built and she won't get that either, though she "got him".

He is NPD/PA/SA and she...a fool.