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UR_AN_IDIOT (original poster member #18764) posted at 6:05 PM on Tuesday, January 19th, 2010
I need book suggestions for my H to read to help him understand what conflict avoidance is, how it manifests itself and what behaviors (ie. lying) are related to it.
My H has no clue what conflict avoidance even is but said he would be willing to read up on it. He has never even heard the term before I brought it to his attention.
Any suggestions would be appreciated.
Me: BW 56
FWH: 58
Married 33 years
DD 31 DS 28
Reconciled
looking forward ( member #25238) posted at 1:07 AM on Wednesday, January 20th, 2010
I googled and found a lot of references and articles, most scholarly and wordy.
BH and I have an extensive library of books now, and all cover communication issues.
So I would recommend:
Intimate Partners: Patterns In Love And Marriage (Scarf)
The Secret Of Letting Go (Finley)
Forgiveness: How To Make Peace With Your Past And Get On With Your Life (Simon & Simon)
Living The Truth (Ablow)
These books are highly readable and not only give insight into marriage and partnerships and the self, but also are great topics of conversations and discussions between us.
Good Luck ~ lf 
Together more than 57 years, Married 52 years. Sober since 2009. "You've always had the power, my dear, you just had to learn it for yourself." (The Wizard of Oz)
BorrowTrouble ( member #2435) posted at 5:30 AM on Wednesday, January 20th, 2010
--Alberti, Robert E. & Emmons, Michael L. Your Perfect Right: Assertiveness and Equality in Your Life and Relationships 2008
--Bower, S. A. & Bower, G. H. Asserting Yourself: A Practical Guide for Positive Change 1991
--Davidson, Jeff The Complete Idiot's Guide to Assertiveness 1997
--Lloyd, Sam R. Developing Positive Assertiveness: Practical Techniques for Personal Success 2001
--Paterson, Randy J. The Assertiveness Workbook: How to Express Your Ideas and Stand Up for Yourself at Work and in Relationships 2000
Hope24 ( member #9344) posted at 11:38 AM on Friday, March 11th, 2011
bump
She packed up her potential and all she had learned and headed out to change a few things.
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