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He hadn't opened it yet - that makes it all better.

Personally I wouldn't have given that much time with the texts, nor that much information. My concern would be if your H has written a NC letter of not. Has that taken place? If so, why is she contacting him? And I am a little confused as to why, out of the blue, did she contact you telling you she would not contact him again. How did she know something was going on?

Not talking to him without establishing some guidelines and dealbreakers to me is not going to solve anything. And I have to admit it bothers me that he is not trying to engage in conversation with you or doing anything to make it better. Afterall, he is the one who betrayed and broke your heart. Why is he okay with not talking or comforting you?

The email was sent at 7 pm Fri night and I opened it at 430 that morning. I called H and told him to get out of the house... gave him no time to respond and I called OW at her house and told her thanks for the nail in the coffin and that I was taking all of my info to her preacher and her church and her double life was going to be exposed. Then I called H's mom to tell her what was going on, because suppossedly they were no longer talking or seeing each other.

Hence I got the text from her Sun morning. Could it be because she didn't want me outting her at her church? Maybe. Could it have been sincere? I don't know.

I know I was probably way to nice with my messages to her... but mind you this is a church going, christian woman (self proclaimed)

and I had already showed my ass and cussed her and told her what a whore and adulteress she is.... so I decided that it was time to quit acting crazy and show that I am the bigger, much more decent woman than her. It may have been to much info, but I am tired of holding it all in. I want it done one way or the other. They can either bask in the glory of their unholy union and all of the sorrow it will bring them or it needs to be done completely.

I am not giving my H the opportunity to talk to me right now. I just don't want to hear anything right now. Whether he knew she was going to email him or not it doesn't matter. Was she just fishing? Maybe. Lately my H has actually been trying more than I have at reaching out and trying, because I cannot give anymore. I just cannot. I am stepping back for a brief period of sanity and getting my composure until I am ready to either dive back on or run for the hills.

I do not trust her whatsoever. Him, well, I don't trust him either. Is he trying, yes. Is it enough? Not yet.

A NC letter wasn't sent when this crap started because he said that he had already ended it with her and he didn't want to have any contact with her.... I think I have heard that before!

You just confirmed my fears. This woman cannot be trusted. She is concerned about her reputation and not sorry for you or your family but sorry that her reputation is at your mercy. This is your decision to make. You may want to expose her to people or not but if a spouse is involved I would sure do that. As for exposure to the church, this may be a double edged sword, and I would not be will to be an active participant in her life as this makes her importants.

Once again changed29, I say it is very difficult, but it is almost the only way you can get your WS back as the wiser people have told us, DETACH!! 180 and NC until he gets the grip!!

Wishing you patience and tolerance

(((changed29)))

This self proclaimed Christian woman is a hypocrite of the worst kind.

I saw this from your other thread about this OW texting you:

I need a break from it all. From the pain, drama and lies.

After reading that, and this thread I agree with you - the 180 is the best way for you to go right now. Let your WH stew for a bit.

Take care of yourself and your kids. I wish you well.

Don't trust a word spoken by OW or WS. They are obviously stealth liars/deceivers! Second, know that it's child's play to read a message in yahoo and then save it as new. So you really have nothing saying he never read it.

changed29... I'm glad for you that you had a chance to say your peace once more to this woman however. I know how rewarding that is. Some may not agree, but I do. It was necessary, beneficial, and gave me peace to do so. Just procede with caution, which I know you are. Wishing you peace and everything you deserve in life!