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OMG! OMG OMG. I am going to be sick. He started to do this long before he affair supposedly started. I hated it. The stubble hurt. I told him to stop and he refused. He said he liked it. He told me I just had to deal with it because it hurt him to have hair down there.

I could not understand why he would even want to do anything down there!

God, this is making me ill.

Fuck.

Whoa, this topic struck a chord with me!

Prior to D-day, I peeked in on WS while he was showering and noticed he had shaved down yonder. Finding it a bit odd,(he never did this in our 21 years of marriage)I questioned him about it. He plainly said that he was tired of all the hair and wanted to be rid of it..blah blah blah. YEAH RIGHT!! At that moment my heart was telling me he was lying but I trusted him. So, I accepted his explanation.

A short time after I noticed he had shaved his chest hair, too. His explanation - "I don't like the new gray/white hairs that are sprouting."

I later discovered that the OW had called him an old man when she saw him in the buff! Well, YEAH, he's 12 years older than her!!

Stupido!!

[This message edited by LineInTheSand at 8:57 PM, January 8th (Saturday)]

OH, and OW was nice enough to pluck his grey hair from his beard, afterall, a 22 yr old chick doesn't need to be reminded she is F'n a man 2x her age, i guess

OH, and OW was nice enough to pluck his grey hair from his beard, afterall, a 22 yr old chick doesn't need to be reminded she is F'n a man 2x her age, i guess

Intuition...maybe he was getting gray ball hairs too!

FWH trims and sometimes shaves. The only reason he will shave is if he goes overboard with the trimming. I've watched him do it and it's a friggin' riot!

He starts on one side and then does the other. Then he stops and compares. Asks me if it's even. Then tries to touch it up. I would say about close to half the time, he ends up frustrated and shaves it all off.

He's asked me to help him. I refuse. God forbid I have a trigger while the boys are in one hand and the razor in the other.

I hate to say this but my husband starting doing this during his affairs. He told me he just didn't like hair in that area. Really. You always had it before! It should have been a huge red flag but I was obviously blind. I will say he still does it and the affair has been over for almost two years. He was in one affair for three years and the craigslist girl was a few months after the long term affair ended.

I think he's just use to it now. So either he still is or he found out he just likes them that way.lol

Wow who would have know a post on "BALLS" would have warranted such responses, lol. To those it made laugh, well we either laugh or we cry, to those it triggered, hugs, and to those who had a oh!!! Moment I'm sorry. I thank those who share their sad tales to help me "see" my eyes are wide open, my gut has yet to be wrong and this whole thing reeks of wrong! What to do now? Well that I now have to figure out

OMG! The shaved balls. H shaved his balls for OW and yes I know why. He hadn't done that for me in 5+ years. We had been apart for two weeks ( in the middle of cross country move) and the first night we were together again I mentioned his shave job. He absently said I knew you coming. Didn't buy it for one second.

Is it weird that my husband's balls are naturally hairless? He has pubic hair, but his balls and penis are hairless. It was the same with my late husband. Hairless balls. I can't believe I am writing this.

boudicca: LOL

My husband has always done this from so it definitely was not a red flag. It for the most part is part of his routine.

Just checked. He does have a few hairs on his balls. He is a natural blond, so you have to look close.

[This message edited by boudicca at 8:20 AM, January 10th (Monday)]

My H also shaved his balls for the first time in his life while having affair with OW. He said she said if she was going to be shaved, then he should too. One day while showering, he did & kept it going for about 2 months. The next time we were together, the hair was back. When I asked him about not shaving, he said he got tired of that shit. We always go back to who we really are. You can change things about yourself for a while but only for a while...

T/J: USMC-Wife made the infamous SI Hall of Fame Quote thread cuz of this topic:

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=246918&AP=461&HL=

God forbid I have a trigger while the boys are in one hand & the razor in the other.

Boudicca....the fact that he seemed so hesitant to share made me smile. The fact that you came back with an update made me bust a gut!

Funny thread - sad tho too for some just realizing it was a sign. Hugs to those of you. Since this has turned into a poll... ...

I know TMI, but my H is part ape. He is very hairy and long story short, I did oral on him over the years, but was never thrilled with it because of the hair.

When I started see OM while H & I were S'd, he was like just the opposite - His balls and bat (I made a funny ) were bare but he had nicely groomed hair above the bat. Made oral sooo much easier and enjoyable. (The funny thing is it must have been totally natural because I can in no way shape or form see the OM as being the kind to manscape) But hey, maybe he did - whodathunkit? anyway...

When H & I R'd, I am sure, altho he's never said anything, that my H noticed I was much more into giving oral and was much better at it than before too but I had to insist he shave and trim because as I jokingly tell him - "I don't want the dental floss" (eewweee...I know...sorry )

And on a side note, when he was seeing the OW while we were S'd he swears the only had sex once and that she was the one to say it wasn't going to happen again. So, she was very high maintenance type and I suspect that the hair thing was "not her thing"...I'm sorry - that kind of makes me laugh.

Funny thread, but the reality is that he very well might be cheating again.

What if he is? I read your profile and OMG what you have been through with this "slut" of a man.

In hindsight - if your S suddenly starts requesting that you start "landscaping" in a dramatically different way, trust me - there is an A going on.

Same thing if out of the blue they start doing it without being requested by you to do so.

I think maybe you should invest in some investigative tools such as a keylogger and a VAR for his car and perhaps a GPS for his car.

Unless you asked him to shave his balls his is most likely doing it for the OW.

Now shaving his pubic hair may be something he did for the OW and continued after the affair. You do feel a lot cleaner without all that hair. Hair carries bacteria and traps odor. So continuing shaving that part could be for himself. His balls is not something that I would think would be a big deal for being clean...unless he has really hairy balls.

I'm sorry you are having to worry about whether or not there is something insideous about your H shaving his private parts, that is just so sad. But I would go into verifying mode if I got a red flag like that, most likely.

Is it really shaving or is there a male balls Nair???

K9lover1 thanks for reading my profile, yes I do believe he's once again cheating, and if honest I don't believe there isn't a time he hasn't been. I am trying to figure out my next step.

A var, gps, will never work, he drives company cars, and not always the same one everytime, and he never goes on the computer at home, too many kids, he only uses work computer.

He is not at all hairy, and there is no reason for this change except for one! I know this, just can't prove it, but its funny proof is no longer needed, after awhile you know what you know