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My suggestion:

- I'll give the marriage a chance when I see proof that you a) want this marriage, b) want me as your husband, and c) are willing to do the hard work to repair the damage done.

Kids want to Skype tonight - around 7 okay?

How about option K: I am not going to discuss the future of our marriage by text message. What time would you like to skype with the kids tonight?

MIL just called...

My 4 year old D is home with her today. She wanted to talk to daddy.

"Daddy, I want you. Please come home."

Her I have a hug for.

j and k are both good suggestions. I'm leaning towards G, to be sent after work, maybe about 4pm...she's got poor cell service there..maybe she won't get it.

BTW Feb,

Loved your analogy on goosems thread:

...if you see her in the rear-view mirror running after you with a big sign that says "I'm sorry, I'll do anything," MAYBE let your foot off the accelerator a little...

BTW Feb,

Loved your analogy on goosems thread:

...if you see her in the rear-view mirror running after you with a big sign that says "I'm sorry, I'll do anything," MAYBE let your foot off the accelerator a little...

Thank you. I thought of bigger when I came up with that.

I'm going to try to follow my own advice, although I think goose-em needs to drive even faster than I do at this point.

I KNOW how easy it is to get lured into having these conversation via text. The only advantage....written proof!!!

Skype her tonight...let the kids talk...and then just say goodnight. She is going to try and "talk."

I'm going to try to follow my own advice, although I think goose-em needs to drive even faster than I do at this point.

Yeah, it sounds your wife heard you start the car and start to pull away, but doesn't really believe you're going to leave her on the side of the road. She's pretty confident you're coming back to pick her up.

goose-ems wife knows he left, but thinks the side of the road is looking pretty good. Unfortunately for her, her sellers remorse is going to kick in much too late.

My 4 year old D is home with her today. She wanted to talk to daddy.

"Daddy, I want you. Please come home."

Her I have a hug for.

Great!!! I remember how much I needed my DS's hugs after DDAY. IT was almost like he knew I needed the reassuracnce as much as he did.

Hold them tight, make sure they know you love them and they had nothing to do with WW's poor decisions. (((Feb))) This infidelity stuff sucks!

Yeah, it sounds your wife heard you start the car and start to pull away, but doesn't really believe you're going to leave her on the side of the road. She's pretty confident you're coming back to pick her up.

goose-ems wife knows he left, but thinks the side of the road is looking pretty good. Unfortunately for her, her sellers remorse is going to kick in much too late.

I would have used a bike analogy, but right now she could chase me down.

I feel for goose-em. I think she might realize it too late, and that would suck for all of them, kids included.

I feel for goose-em. I think she might realize it too late, and that would suck for all of them, kids included.

Amen feb, I feel for goose as well.

Her inability to engage is painful Waywardness.

I feel for goose-em. I think she might realize it too late, and that would suck for all of them, kids included.

I feel for goose too.....but, goose never had to deal with "limbo-land". And that, in it's self, is a different kind of hell.... your reality!!!

I replied.....sort of.

She sent me another e-mail this morning, but it was about not connecting via Skype last night, and then about the weather down there, and how they might go to a shooting range because there was nothing else to do (if she does, then she really won't have much to say when she gets home and finds out I let our 9 year old buy a nerf-gun, in violation of her no guns of any kind except water rule)...the e-mail ended with "hoping for positive vibes"

My reply:

"We were still at C******'s until 8:30. Try for 7 tonight?"

the e-mail ended with "hoping for positive vibes"

That's just sad. And where are your "positive vibes"?

Where's the:

- I'm sorry. I now realize what a fool I've been.

- I'm on my way home to start repairing the damage I have done.

- I will do ANYTHING to fix this. Please tell me I am not too late.

She's really quite self centered - coming from a completely outside view.

Positive vibes?! For what? What has she given you?

I just got probable OM2's BS's email address. I sent her a message on Facebook...

Can you give me your email address? I have something I need to send you

Hi ****. Sure. It's ********@gmail.com. Everything ok??..

I'm sure you know that ****** and I aren't doing too well..

Going to the movies with my kids now.

You soooo cannot leave us hanging like that....

Is tomorrow gonna be Blow up the A day and you will confront both OBSs

More important -- do not leave OM2's BS hanging! She will ask what's up with her husband and he will LIE to cover his ass. By the time you get to her, you may be cast as Mr. Batshit Crazy.

Do forward her the emails you have. She needs evidence.

From "I'm not in love with you and was never atracted to you" to "please give US a chance" then "will you still be giving us a chance?". Was there another conversation she had where she got from I'm not in love with you to give us a chance? Were you invited to it?

"Us" isn't working, and damn sure way too crowded with more than two. Her idea of "us" is not the same as yours.

I'm with the majority and reiterate my first post about talking about it via text, phone or e-mail. You order books and pay bills via e-mail, not talk about saving your marriage. You send info via text like, "be home in 15" or "can you pick up some milk on the way home" via text, not talk about getting IC/MC to find out whats broken. You talk to connect and stay in touch via the phone, not work through difficult emotions after an affair(s).

Option G, tell her to skype the kids. If she doesnt respect you as her husband to speak to you about this very sensitive, personal, critical, emotionally traumatizing event in person immediately then I doubt anything fruitful can come of texting the future of your marriage via text, e-mail or over the phone.

Uhoh.

Got this while I was at the movie...

*****, i am truly ready to mend...i want my family and that includes u..please dont send emails to my friends and their family...you are only accomplishng negative things....please move forward positively....there are children involved...i even know u gps tracked me...stop all of this

HUH? Did I miss something? Did you GPS her? You have every rite to but I didn't think you did.

You didn't email friends/family, right? You only emailed one other BS, correct.

She sounds like she is trying to do some damage control which is to be expected. BUT she might be ready to mend even if she isn't coming across real sincere at the moment.

OBS must have said something to her H that you sent her a FB message and asked about it...and they told WW.

You have to act fast!!!

Right now she knows her name is about to be mud...and she is going to damage control like her life depends on it. She is going to make up a story....

Feb...you gotta pull the trigger tonight.