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Itsgoodtobeme ( member #31146) posted at 2:14 PM on Wednesday, March 23rd, 2011
Wla,
This is a truly sad story, but I admire your strength in accepting the truth and moving forward. You deserve great things.
i guess i sit here and wonder silently to myself if i am jealous that you are able to accept this and have the resolve to do something about it, or if i am angry. angry because i should be doing this and...well, can't.?
I feel both of these emotions. I truly admire those with the strength to make this break. Why don't I have it?
me - BW 49
him -(F?)WH - 46
married almost 19 years
D-Day1 4/3/10
D-Day2 2/2/11
DD 16, DS1 13, DS2 8
why2008 ( member #18378) posted at 2:16 PM on Wednesday, March 23rd, 2011
Right. It's the lying and it doesn't matter what it's about, just that it's not conducive to marriage or even friendship.
So true. Such a waste of two lives and 35 years of marriage.
I just don't understand the constant deception. I hope you have seen an attorney, there are consequences as to who leaves the marital home first in some states and under what circumstances...
Me - BS - 46
Him - WS - 44
Two daughters / 10 and 7
Tryingtoheal61 ( member #29633) posted at 2:23 PM on Wednesday, March 23rd, 2011
I'm so sorry.
It's too bad your WW hasn't realized what she has put in jeapordy.
whatliesahead (original poster member #27596) posted at 8:32 PM on Wednesday, March 23rd, 2011
I have often said that nothing surprises me, but last night left me speechless. My wife asked me if when we build our new house (something we have been planning for a year or so) if we could build it so her parents could move in with us. They are both 90 plus and are beginning to have some issues being alone.
In the past I have always told my wife that should the need ever arise that we needed to take care of her parents I would be willing to do so.
Then she wanted to pray together and she asked God that I find it in my heart to forgive her.
Knowing what I know, I was floored. Personally I would be afraid a lightening bolt would snuff out my life.
Amazed, simply amazed.
Me BS 57
Ex-wife 54
Divorced
DDay January 2010
brokenk ( member #30193) posted at 8:59 PM on Wednesday, March 23rd, 2011
Wow the boldness of her actions amazes me. I am amazed by your strength and wish you luck with that new job and even better that new life!
Me(34)- BW
Him(38)-WH Evilgeek
1st Dday 11/20/09
2nd Dday 11/20/10
3rd Dday 1/19/2015
Spent much time in R only to have a new Dday 1/19/2015
He has been diagnosed as a SA since 2010.
bigpicture3236 ( member #27861) posted at 9:34 PM on Wednesday, March 23rd, 2011
I applaud your decision. Why must we continue to give chance after chance to these WS who continue doing exactly what they want because they think we do not know? I also have a keen sense of intuition. WH had been telling me things, but they were the easy ones to admit to and insignificant in value. But, I KNEW something was up. In went the VAR and it was all laid out in two 5 minutes conversations, which he had the balls to lie to me about the next day.
I am also checking out. Enough is enough.
If you love something and hurt it dearly, then chose not to fix it...you never deserved it in the first place.
aeg512 ( member #30641) posted at 9:56 PM on Wednesday, March 23rd, 2011
I think you should go ahead and bring out what you know and tell her your plans. Go ahead and get it over with.
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