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I'd blush too tell you of how many lovers I've had..

Great post exhausted lady! Your 'name' made me chuckle when I read this sentence.

But I'm betting they're not related. lol

Hmmm.....well, maybe that's partly where the handle came from!

Darn, I haven't been "exhausted" in quite a while. Stupid bus!

I was shocked when my ex-FWB expressed insecurity over his thick 9-inch penis. That's when I realized a lot of men are carrying around some baggage on this issue. I mean, if HE thought he was small compared to the porn stars....

I am sorry I missed Ama's TMI. I love TMI.

Yeah. me too!

Anyway, like Exhausted Lady, I'd blush too if I admitted how many partners I've had. The best were not the biggest. They were all fairly average. The biggest was not memorable because he was sooooo good. He was memorable because we had to stop.

slight t/j...I became friends with a guy, and after a while, we were hanging out one night, and we started messing around. Well, I should have known from the way he kissed this wouldn't be good. And, I was right, and he was definitely on the small side of small. Well, as luck would have it, we ended up working at the same place about 6 months later, bartending. And, we had stayed friends, but hadn't slept together again. Anyway, we'd work Friday nights together, and he was a good looking guy, so, he'd start flirting with women as soon as he clocked in, and by midnight is trying to find one to take home with him. So, I had to listen to him tell giggly, drunk women how huge he was and how great in bed he was for 6 months or so. I bit my tongue so hard at that job.

So what is tiny, teenie, below? 3 or 4 inches?

What is average, normal 5 or 6 inches?

Above average? 7 or 8 inches?

Thanks, 944. I guess that makes my new friend tiny teenie. Now wonder he was all nervous about me getting there.

eta - we stil had a fabulous time. I hope he's not so shy on our next date.

[This message edited by beingmiranda at 1:28 PM, December 2nd (Friday)]

the only thing that really matters is the size of of a man's enthusiasm and desire to please me

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Reverse ditto on the boob size....ladies, it's not what's in the cup, it's what's in your "lust".

Being self conscious is not a turn-on for your partner. Being totally into the moment, and the act is.

YES YES YES!

That is what it is . That is what is most important. My best lover was NOT the one with the biggest penis. He was the one with the most desire and passion. The one that could kiss me and make me melt.

Also, as far as the "perfect" size, whatever guy I am currently in love with is my perfect size.

I was shocked when my ex-FWB expressed insecurity over his thick 9-inch penis. That's when I realized a lot of men are carrying around some baggage on this issue. I mean, if HE thought he was small compared to the porn stars..

Yeah, and that is so stupid. Okay ladies.....is there anyone here who really wants someone that looks like a porn star? They are there to put on a show, that is not what a real woman would want in reality. It just doesn't work right with the size of most women....

WS was large, past large as a matter of fact. I did not see this as a "good thing". There were times it was down right painful.

He, on the other hand, thought it was wonderful. Loved to brag and talk about it, wanted me to tell him how "gi-nor-mous" he was.

The worst sex was with men, no matter what their size, who were "jack rabbits".

Use gotta use what you got...that's all I'm sayin'.

I'm on the small side but didn't seem to bother my wife, got attacked may times. Yeah!!!

Ahem..i don't know what teeny constitutes, but i do think if you're not average 5in i think is the ave, if you make up for it with other things like umm, taking care of bidness with your mouth, or any other way it's all good I will say, and i know this might be tmi but dh is a grower and he's bigger than average but for some reason he's self concious i don't get it, he is an amazing lover, and i mean in every way, he rearranges my furniture sometimes if you know what i mean, and it actually hurts, but still the grower thing really affects him. What gives?

I will say that I've had concerns about the size of mine for most of my life. I've never had any complaints at all. In fact, X#2 told me that her first husband was the size of a soup can and they never had sex because it was too painful for her (and the no sex was the big reason they divorced). She was glad that I was "normal-sized" and most of the women I've been with have expressed the same thing.

Things don't feel as snug with my current gf. She's tall (really tall) and she's had 2 children, and I did express some sadness that I wasn't bigger. She said, "Oh, baby. Don't be stupid. You're perfect in that area."

And I will say that our sex life is great. She regularly has 2-3 orgasms every time we have sex. I guess I'm doing okay, but I do feel a little insecure about things in the size department.

Ok Dozer, i have to know, why do you still feel insecure if you're giving your gf 2-3 orgasm's?

seriously does it matter?

were all on surviving infidelity because we have all been cursed by it. find someone who you can laugh with, enjoy life with and spend the rest of your life with.

the fact that they may have small brests, a small penis or a small pay packet is incidental as the beatles wrote

Love is all you need....

Goodness Dozer - 2,3 orgasms...

As a grower with a large shrink/swell ratio I've always been insecure to some degree. It may also go back to an early GF who made comparisions to her prior BF. Yet, it always seemed to do the job for her. Another GF told me she was glad that I wasn't too big as they hurt and some guys with big ones thought women should be glad to be with them based on the sheer magnitude, not what they did with it.

Having my xWW cheat with a guy that seemed outwardly nothing special when multiple orgasms was the norm for us creates a question mark that is hard to erase...

I haven't been with a woman other than xWW in 20 years. I guess at some point I'll be dealing again with some apprehension about size when I start dating again. Then again, size may not be my biggest worry, I'll probably be more worried about remembering what to do with it after so long...

Definitely nothing wrong with orgasms Bulldozer! No need to be self concious.

I miss the 2-3 orgasms/session too. XWH was an ass, but he was a great lover.

I think the orgasm thing has much to do with the particular woman. I had one gf who was multi. Oral or IC didn't matter it was multi every time. Some women get there easier than others.

My gf has a friend who has NEVER had one, shes in her 40s as unreal as that seems

[This message edited by 944man at 8:29 AM, December 3rd (Saturday)]

good grief

I didn't know till I got here that all women didn't get off easily....

I never count, I just know it feels good the whole time.

For me it's like 99% mental, so FarmBoy can sit on Skype 1600 miles away, mention something we did in August, and it happens for me again.

I don't think it's the equipment that does it, it's a feeling.

I'm not a man, but to quote the comedian Jeff Foxworthy, "I just want a beer and to see someone naked."

I don't care what size it is. Men are awesome.