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notmeanymore ( member #9772) posted at 5:19 PM on Friday, March 30th, 2012
BTDT.
I have told. I guess part of it is my guilty conscience. I want my future partner to know. To know and to see that I'm not the same person anymore.
I've often been provoked into telling very early because I find the other person is a BS. That ramps up my desire to just lay it out there.
Currently dating a FBS. It has not been an issue for us. But, he did not take it lightly when I told him. At the same time, he gave me credit for wanting to tell.
"Put the cuckoo back in the clock baby" - Four Brothers
Darkness Falls ( member #27879) posted at 2:01 AM on Saturday, March 31st, 2012
I can't quote using my phone but I wanted to comment after the previous poster who said something about telling too early on. In my case it was very early---first date---because it was the truthful answer to the natural first-date question "why did you get divorced?" So therein lies the rub...tell to be honest/not answer the question with a lie (never a good start to a relationship 
) but run the risk of getting too negatively personal too early.
I absolutely do not regret it. I lied for five months straight during my affair; I shattered my self-esteem and self-respect. The way I saw it, every truth after D-day---no matter how embarrassing or how bad it made me look---was another step toward getting those things back.
Married -> I cheated -> We divorced -> We remarried -> Had two kids -> Now we’re miserable again
Staying together for the kids
D-day 2010
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