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I found out on May 21, 2012 that my H was involved with his secretary. They had it planned because the OW had filed for divorce from her husband on May 16, 2012. Anyway, my attorney told me to go get STD tested, which I did. My results for Chlaymidia came back positive on June 6, 2012. The last time I had sex with my H was on May 20, 2012.

Both my husband and the OW have put in writing through attorneys that they both had STD testing and all tests came back negative.

How is this possible? Do you think my test might have been incorrect?

We just had a deposition with the OW and had her under oath and she said she does not or did not have an STD.

My H's attorney also put it in writing that my H is also clear of any STD.

Makes me look like I am the one having the affair, which they accused me of. But, of course, we said come up with the evidence of which they will have none, because I am NOT having an affair.

My H is having the affair; I hired a PI and have proof (video and pictures of them coming out of the motel and cell phone records).

Are there other explanations for me testing positive and they are not.

I have been married 5 years and was with one other person for 10 years before that with 2 years in between the 2 of them (and no sex). Could I have had the STD that long and not know it? How could I have NOT passed it to my H?

Or, is there foul play here?

Can't figure this one out.

BS: 55 years old

WS: 60 years old

Married 5 years

No kids

To the best of my knowledge the only way to get Chlamydia is through sexual contact and it can be passed from mother to child during birth. You can't get it from a toilet seat!! I seriously doubt that you would have had it for years and not passed it to your WH.

If I were you, I would ask my attorney to subpoena test results to confirm that they are telling you the truth. Your WH may be very well aware that he has or has had this STD and maybe lying to his attorney. It is difficult for me to believe that you could have had this infection for years and your WH not also be infected... so I'm smelling a rat! In my opinion... your WH has done one of two things...

1. He's never been tested and told his lawyer he is not infected OR

2. Has tested positive and is lying to his lawyer.

Either way... I think he's full of crap!

Call your doctor and ask him/her those questions. That would be your best source of accurate information.

[This message edited by CryingGreenEyes at 8:43 PM, July 21st (Saturday)]

Is there anyway that he could have found out that you were being tested and went and got tested and treated well b4 this lawyer exchange. He could have been re-tested and really be cured if he found out early enough that you were going to do this. Seems like they were well prepared for this...good (sneaky) attorneys could have advised them to test...treat...and re-test....

I was diagnosed on 6/6/12 and he was told 6/20/12 from my attorney to his attorney. The letter from his attorney was dated 7/11/12 that stated he did not have an std. So, I agree, he could have gotten treated, then tested and the test results would have been negative.

What throws me a little is the OW; we had her for a deposition on 7/19 (this past thursday) and asked her if she had ever had an std, and she said "no".

Cheaters lie. Simple as that.

Yup. Cheaters lie.

Yes, and they are both cheaters and liers. Get this. The OW separated from her husband in March and told him, she just needed some space. She filed for divorce, no attorneys, uncontested, divorced in 31 days finalized on 6/12. Unfortunately, I didn't call him until beginning of July; he was crushed; thought they were getting back together. Had no idea she was with my H the whole time. He is 68 years old and crushed; wife of 13 years.

I guess they deserve each other. And, she is the secretary of my H. My H is a public county official and up for re-election in November 2012!!! What is he thinking????

It only takes 10 days to wipe out Chlamydia--so a follow up STD test would reflect no infection. The solution? Have your lawyer subpeona records from the doctor's office.

The other person to check out is OW ex H. If they (OWXH and OW)were sexually active together during what he thought was R he may well have it too.

I bet your WH is free now but I bet he wasn't - he has just handed over post treatment results - yes cheaters lie.

[This message edited by avicarswife at 3:55 AM, July 22nd (Sunday)]

I would actually suggest a subpoena for his insurance records - as he may have switched doctors to hide any treatment.

Also, go through his financial records carefully. If he paid cash (and never filed an insurance claim), it may be difficult to find.

Be sure to also subpoena HER insurance records and financials.

I'm sorry - but putting 'in writing' that they don't have an STD is just laughable. They need some kind of PROOF - other than their 'word.'