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I've sold all three of ours. I then chose a replacement I like, which is meaningful to me. WH designed his own, and for the first time in 16 years, is actually wearing it! I didn't want to keep the old ones. That marriage is over.

I do not wear mine, but since dday my WH wears it on his pinkie finger (it's just a simple gold band so he can get away with it). He has told me he plans on buying me a new one when I'm ready for it.

I took mine off for some months after Dday. I put them back on when I felt more committed back to the marriage. My fWH never took his off. I am very attached to my engagement ring (it was my great grandmother's) but sometimes I wish my H would suggest getting new rings. Seeing our rings make me very sad because they remind me of the broken promises. I would like us to have a recommitment ceremony at some point.

I (BS) took mine off on D-Day and haven't worn it since.

WS hadn't been wearing it for about a month before D-Day. Says it reminds him of what an awful husband he was.

He was away for work during his A. He wore it all the time, and was the first thing the OW noticed about him. But as they started getting closer he took his ring off, and then never put it back on.

I'm conflicted. I would like him to wear his ring because I loved so much what it represented before the A. But now, I feel disgusted that he chose to take that ring off and all that it represented in order to have an A. And I feel disgusted that the OW saw that same ring and continued to pursue a married man. Yuck yuck yuck.

Because my vow to him was never broken, I feel that he could still wear it. But it also serves as a terrible reminder every time I look at it. I have told him it would be very meaningful for me if he took my old rings and had them re made into something new to represent our new marriage. In the meantime, no rings for us :(

I took mine off on D-day and left it on the bathroom counter for him to find later. I think seeing it there was the first real gut punch for him. He was devastated that for the first time in 8 years, there was no ring from him on my finger. I told him that I would not wear a ring again until I felt that there was some truth to what they stood for. I am hopeful that one day I will be able to wear a ring again.

I never made him take his off, nor asked him to, because I never broke the promise I made during my vows. It does bother me a bit to see it, mostly because he did not remove it while screwing the OW. It bothers me knowing that it was all over HER body.

@MB- I wish he had taken his ring off when they had sex. I keep picturing my ring on her ass. It also freaks me out to ride in the same car seat I know she was sitting in. My mom was telling me about this great restaurant the other day and it was a place he took her. I just wanted to scream!

It's complicated, I had stopped wearing mine this spring, unknowingly around the time fWH started his affair because of slight weight gain and a general dissatisfaction with our M. After DDay and subsequent weight loss I had started wearing mine again until 2 weeks ago when I misplaced it in the house. I took it off because it was suddenly painfully tight and haven't been able to locate it since. I was going out last week and realized my engagement ring fits so I wore that as much-needed guy repellant.

fWH and I are seriously considering getting our wedding bands tattooed in the near future, for practical reasons.

My ring belonged to my grandma. I plan on taking the diamonds (the diamonds were hers in a ring-not the setting because it was split in half for my sister and I) and making a mothers ring with emeralds. Someday anyway.

I wore the rings after DDay because he asked me to. I stopped when I couldn't bare the reminder anymore.