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So common for a recovering addict to jump into an affair to make themselves feel better and not have to do the hard work on themselves. She has created all of this extra drama just to keep from facing herself. Sorry you and your precious daughter are the one suffering from the fallout! Good luck to you and keep taking care of yourself and child. She will not automatically get the child since she is an alcoholic that is having an affair. Please contact an attorney, you should not move out of your house and relinquish your claims on it.

Danny

They are right.

Go see an Attorney so you know your rights. Do not leave the house until you see the Attorney.

Be smart because your wife is acting dumb.

Protect yourself and your daughter.

HM64

Well another update. First week is almost over for being away from house to give us a two week break from each other. It was hard even if I saw WW and my daughter in the mornings to say good by to daughter. WW had not stopped talking to him, but last night His wife called me and we had a good conversation. I informed WW what was said and it up set her as it should. His wife stated she will fight for him as she loves him and they have four kids. He doesn't want her to leave as they have a farm she takes care of. It seems to me he wants his wife for all she does around the house and for him and my wife for the relationship and sex. But I think he is about to find out how strong is wife is.

As for me I have to get WW out of my head and I don't know how. I think of other things but always come back thinking of her and the last few years we have been together. I went hunting Pheasants and training my dog to keep my mind busy. I'm doing the best I can to take care of me and our younger daughter.

Counsler is working well and I am not making any big decisions at this time as I am told.

Any thoughts on how to get WW out of my head?

Because she is a good mom and has the better work schedule to be home with daughter. She well get her according to attorney. Her addiction hasn't hurt daughter and she is recovering. I hope she continues to recover.

Danny, I hate with every fiber of my being hearing about your situation... It would take all I could stand not to take the phone away from her while she was openly disrespecting you, and smash it to atoms!

These folks look and kinda act like the people you once knew, but it is an illusion. They are nothing but emotional predators completely consumed with selfishness, doing nothing short of emotional rape to many innocent people.

If she is feeling some heat about being kicked out, I hope you strongly take precautions toward her possibility to doing some stupid crap to get a PFA. Of course you know all about this, just making sure to put a bug in your ear. Also, I would strongly suggest any joint accounts be divided in half so that she can not drain them, any CC's in your name she uses get cut, any other bills you pay that she is using to hurt you, are now on her dime.

I wish I could tell you how to get the WW and circumstance out of your head. I am 6mo out of D-Day, and I am mentally consumed with this shit; only how I relate and feel about it has changed. Best of luck, and we all understand and feel the excruciating pain you are going through.

[This message edited by Shockleader at 1:43 PM, November 9th (Friday)]

Nov 10th...

I just wanted to add my WW is a recovering alcoholic and is doing great at her recovery (I am proud of her for that) She is a great mother and has never hurt our daughter nor would she. Because of my schedule WW wife would get her and I know I couldnt take her away from WW no matter what has happened to me, as she is a great mother.

She only knows dad and mom are arguing. WW and I will protect her from finding out. Wife is still texting him and I'm on my last week out of the house to give us a break. I have no clue what is going to happen when I return home, just that we can't afford two homes right now and will just have to live at the house and go about our business. Divorce is not on the table yet as we need time to think and let things run its course as counselors have stated. I go weekly to my counselor which helps.

Thanks for all your thoughts and prayers (please continue) as I do not want to lose my ww as I do love her a lot and hope to work things out. But as long as she texts him that will not happen of course and I will have to leave.

[This message edited by Danny4575 at 12:26 AM, November 11th (Sunday)]

Danny I guess you didn't read any of the other post ... ? It seems, All these good people here all have been Their own hell and are here to help you minimize your Hell. I've been on here reading for a few months now And it always amazes on how many people do not take some of their advice people give, But the best motivator and I know this from my own experience Is pain After reading your post, You don't reply or even comment on what people just posted either it is just kind of ignorance or just being rude, But I know you're going through a lot, for your own sake and pain listen to these people they know what they're talking about