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My WW came back this week from her conference last week. She spent the week with her infidelity partner in Fla on the company dime. At first, I was depressed when she left, but as the week wore on I actually felt better she was gone. I hated when she finally came back, a day late of course to spend more time with POSOM.

Now she is back, and she keeps pulling the "let's be friends" card. I'm sick of it. How can we be friends when she keeps sneaking off to be with the other man. She's just HPD (Histrionic Personality Disorder) and want's to believe that this is her fairy tale ending where no-one gets hurt.

Then today she sends me this text:

GOOD MORNING :)

WAKE UP SMILING

LIVE EVERY MOMENT AS IF ITS YOUR LAST

BE BOLD N DARING

TRY NEW THINGS.

TAKE CHANCES. TAKE RISKS

BE FEARLESS. tHROW CAUTION TO THE WIND

WAKE UP SMILING EVERY MORNING

GO TO BED SMILING EVER NIGHT :)

LIVE YOUR LIFE WITH TOTAL ABANDON. THIS IS YOUR TIME DO IT TODAY. DONT PUT IT OFF TO TOMORROW

LIFE IS TOO SHORT. YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE.....MAKE IT COUNT..... REALLT COUNT!!!!

FRIENDS ALWAYS

Yay, wonderful quotes of the day to live by from a cheating whore who screws her boyfriend (who she calls Husband behind my back) every afternoon. I was cold to her this morning, so I get this crap. She just doesn't get how she is ripping my heart out every time she goes out with that loser.

Good news is we sign the separation agreement on the 20th. I can finally leave without any repercussions! I've been stuck in this hell since July, and it is time to get out. Goodbye clueless, heartless, HPD sunshine. She will never really understand what she lost.

I don't have any 'friends' who would treat me like that.

What a deluded piece of crap she is.

I'm sorry she is so evil.

I wish you all the best in your New Beginning.

(((WontStop)))

Sending you strength to help you get through till the 20th. Wishing you a NB filled with laughter, happiness, and no more "wonderful" quotes.

((((WontStop)))) She's a real piece of work. Sending you strength.

I want to shove these "qoutes" up her ass!! I hope the 20th comes fast!! Hang in there!! Also, I hate the "friends" thing! What makes them think we are "friends"? It just proves how stupid and delusional they are! (((((WontStop))))) Take care, dmari

I can totally relate to the dread of the Wayward leaving with the AP and then the realization of what a relief it actually is to have some room to breathe. It is quite a realization.

The quotes.... Geeze, one could not make this shit up. Really, if it were not so damn hurtful, it would be amusing. Probably best to refrain from responding and feeding the let's-be-friends-beast.

Hang in there. You can do this!

Good lord. I feel for you, man. That's some delusional shit.

OTH, think of the revenge you're getting with POSOM. He gets to keep her!

Good luck after the 20th..can only be up from here.

Yay, wonderful quotes of the day to live by from a cheating whore who screws her boyfriend every afternoon

Your sarcastic humor cracked me up!!

You know, for a while I was concerned that I may have something wrong with me because my head wouldn't stop shaking. I finally figured out that my head ONLY shook when I was reading some *deep & enlightened* crap from my stbx.

Just remember. You have been doing it for 4 months now, so 11 days should be *no sweat*. You GOT this!

I understand. I did it for eight months. You won't believe how much less burdened you feel when you can finally move out and move on. I'm glad that you don't have much longer to be stuck in that hellish limbo.

Oh, and screw the friends thing. I love how all of our remorseless WSs think that they are still good people and that there shouldn't be any consequences for their behavior. F that.

So sorry WontStop, I am dealing with the male version of this type of delusion.

After he tried to purchase a piece of property with OW behind my back last week, he asked me this week to come to Hawaii with him along with our girls, as friends. Clearly, they have no idea what it means to be a friend.

She seems to be a real deep thinker.

I finally figured out that my head ONLY shook when I was reading some *deep & enlightened* crap from my stbx.

I've been dealing with her deep thoughts since she started her affair with her soul mate. She's bought these boards with all sorts of cute sayings such as "Snooze you Lose" and "Be true to your self" and "you only live once" and "follow your dreams". She has placed them all over the house.

Then it gets weird. She cuts out pictures of happy people from magazines and circulars. She tapes them in the kitchen and bathrooms. She has always liked taking pictures of strangers as well, but at least she does not post them.

And to think I still love this woman.

Bro-Huggs dude.

My ex pulled similar crap when she first left.

"I love you, but I'm not IN LOVE with you!"

She loved me fine until the OW offered to fly her to Europe for the summer!

Mine has been in a fog for over a year.... I hope you get your kids like I have mine.

I wouldn't wish this shit on my worst enemy.

It sucks that you still love her. I know exactly how you feel. I still love my STBX.

They are the mothers of our children. They were our best friends (only friend in my case).

We promised to love each other till "death do us part"..... For some reason, we still fell the need to honor that promise.

[This message edited by militarymech at 1:05 PM, November 9th (Friday)]

I don't know where you live WontStop but it seems to me that you might want to build a really good fire with all those signs...take pictures of it and put them on the fridge. Let her see how much her "signs" mean to you. Maybe play the song "burn baby burn" while you have the bonfire.

Reads to me as a mantra / reason to excuse all responsibility and act without consequence. Sounds about right for wayward.

Whoa. What the fuck? That is a whole mess of crazy!! Also, I think there is a healthy dose of delusional in the mix.

I should mention I also found myself mouth agape, shaking my head.

Drinking a beer for you tonight and hoping the 20th gets here quickly.

When I got the 'let's be friends' crap, I told him...'I have friends. They have never lied to me or about me and they've never made me feel badly about myself. I would never choose you for a friend.'

I would respond with:

"With friends like you, who needs enemies"

That should shut up her sayings!!!!

That is some funny shit right there. I have a completely delusional stbx on my hands as well(as confirmed by our MC during false R #2)

I'm thinking about using these wacky strategies... if I place crazy "snooze you lose" and "follow your dreams" signs all around my house will it make Shitbox leave?

How about if I start his day every morning with some of those motivational quotes??

Don't you just love that fairy tale ending no one gets hurt shit and how about this one "The kids may even be stronger because because of the D" Then walking around thinking that the holidays will be one big happy celebration. "It will be the same we just won't be living in the same house" she tells the kids. Are these fucking people for real?