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In the couple of weeks right after D-day I lost at least 10 lbs or so. X had the nerve to comment that at least this had gotten me past my plateau. (I'm still surprised I didn't stab him in his sleep.)

After that, once we were fully in false R and then in-house S and then the whole drawn out D process, I ate and drank my stress. I drank A LOT during false R. Somewhere during the time he finally moved out, I started drinking a lot less but still eating a lot more. From D-day until about 2 months ago I ended up gaining about 80 lbs. Although, since the D had also granted me the loss of about 200 lbs of pure ASS, I still feel I netted out okay.

Anyway....when I finally realized that part of why I was eating so much was because X wouldn't have let me have this or wouldn't have wanted me to have that, I became aware that I was STILL letting him control portions of my life by trying to rebel against someone who no longer mattered.

I did a little research on my options and I started Medifast. I also started back at the gym and am trying to work myself back up to my pre D-day regimen. And in these past 2 months, I've lost 30 lbs and I'm started to feel healthier.

When I am under difficult emotional stress, I tend to lose weight. Not only can I not seem to eat, but I also work my nerves out through activity. I lost so much weight during the D that many people were worried about me.

Now that I'm D and in a great healthy relationship, I've gained all the weight back plus 20 on top of that.

I would like to lose the 20lbs, but it is so much harder to take off after turning 50. Guess I'll just be fat and happy!

NL

Did I lose weight because of the D?

[This message edited by Brandon808 at 10:00 AM, April 4th, 2013 (Thursday)]

Lol, Brandon. That made me literally laugh out loud!

I was actually on Weight Watchers to lose weight when I suspected the A. I was only about 15lbs away from goal when DDay occured. My appetite plummeted and I lost 7 lbs the 1st week and then 2-3lbs every week after that. I had been plateauing before that and had to ramp up my exercise to 2x per day to lose weight. After DDay, I stopped exercising all together and weight started flying off. I had to stop exercising because I was worried that I would completely disappear. The only food I could stomach when I completely lost my appetite was chinese food. It took about 5 months for my appetite to return. By that time, I had managed to lose 3lbs past my goal weight. I have since gained back 10lbs and would like to lose 7 of them back, but I have maintained most of my weight loss (35lbs). People (except STBX) tell me that I look the best I have looked in years. His loss...

X had the nerve to comment that at least this had gotten me past my plateau. (I'm still surprised I didn't stab him in his sleep.)

Me too!

I'm still losing. Not really sure why, I think I just don't eat crap any more. Right after D-day I dropped 15, but during R (false R) it went back on.

Then, when we S two years ago, I have now slowly lost about 20 pounds. I'm now as thin as I was before children. Another 10 would get me to pre-marriage, but I really don't want to be that thin.

Someone who hadn't seen me in two years commented how freaking thin I am now...I told her she just didn't remember me pre-WS.

Lost 20 lbs of pure stress, another 12 due to excercise.

I lost 15 pounds the first two weeks, vomited everything I ate (not on purpose). Then lost another 20 pounds over the first year, still no appetite but started working out. I am within 5 pounds of where i want to be- I want to be in the 120s again and at 5'7 and a half, that's not bad. Size 6 or 7 jeans now! Only good thing about it.

Brandon, that's hysterical!

It sounds like we have a broad spectrum here. I usually overeat when stressed. Wish I was the kind that didn't eat. I did drink a lot also right after D-day. It wasn't pretty.

My poor kids didn't know what was going on. I drank when they were with their dad, but when they came back, their were bottles and bottles in the trash.

Either way, this crap takes its tool some way. I am happy to hear that lots of you are back on the healthy track.

25 pounds due to stress and I wasn't heavy to begin with so both my mothers (mine and my MIL) were worried. Just put 15 back on over last 3 months. But I'm okay with that. Try and maintian now.

Lost weight immediately following dday, but it quickly tracked me down with the help of many, MANY of its friends.

I lost plenty. Before my D, when the x moved out, and for a little while afterwards I lost over 100 pounds. Not because I stopped eating but because I ate what I wanted and when I wanted. I started having more fruit and veggies and stopped eating shrimp alfredo once a week. That was over a 2 year period and now that another year has passed it’s time for me to buy new pants again because what I have is to large. I'm happy to lose the weight . . . and her!

I lost almost 40 lbs between the time my exH first said he wanted a divorce (2/14/10) through finding out his most recent affair was with my best friend and I filed divorce papers (9/2010).

I was CERTAIN I would gain it back when the stress died down, but it's never really stopped - it's been one thing after another, including being sued by him this fall for decree modification.

Oh well, at least I've stayed a size 4.

I lost 20kls just never hungry get to 9pm at night and I'd eat 2 cheese n biscuits.

Lost 100 so far