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I haven't posted in a long while because my WH did not want me to. Short story he cheated with 20 year old prostitutes for 2 years. He is now telling me he like pussys to be shaved. I am 54 I don't want to do that. Any insite to if this is common, or only to porn and prostitutes? Do you men out their like it? is it only common in the young crowd? Why do it?

I instantly triggered when I saw the title to this post. You see both OW were completely shaved. Wexfiance says he didn't care for it. It was was was available realy. I personally refuse to do it, tried it once long time ago. My personal feeling are I am a grown woman and my body is a reflection of that, my hair is a sign I am adult woman, I have no need to appear like a pre pubecent child for anyones thrills, I can cut it short for visual effect but not going to erase my womanhood. Jmpov.

What matters is that your WH is trying to force you to do something sexually that you don't want to do. That is abuse. Has he been diagnosed as a sex addict? He has always sounded like one.

I was going to respond but only via PM. You have that part disabled.

Just sayin'

Well too bad for him. It's your body and no one has the right to tell you what to do with your body, even something as simple as shaving.

The hair is there for a reason. If you want to trim around the bikini line, that's your business not his. If you don't want to shave it off, then don't.

As a guy I feel like it's a personal choice for the woman. It doesn't matter to me one way or the other. Sure for some guys it's a positive and for some it's s negative. However it's YOUR body so your WH needs to respect your wishes.

ETA: tell him you like men with completely shaven bodies including all facial hair including eyebrows and in the area where the sun don't shine and see what his response is.

[This message edited by 7yrsflushed at 8:55 AM, May 1st (Wednesday)]

It's more troublesome that he is asking you to do something you are not comfortable with. It kinda sounds like he is trying to make you more like the prostitutes he was with. That alone would be offensive to me. It's your body. If you don't want to, don't.

Totally personal choice- the same as the other way round!

I think it is common in a younger crowd- or at least it is around my age group in the UK- BUT it's your body, only do what you're comfortable with for sure.

My FWH said he doesn't care for shaved pussy's. It creeps him out, would make him feel like a child molester.

I did do it once. It sucked for me. FWH wasn't crazy about it and then the growing back in was a bitch, for both of us.

I don't want to do it as waxing seems extremely painful and embarrassing to get it done professionally. It seems like it would be a lot of upkeep and, sorry, don't want to spend that much time grooming my kitty. I have much bigger problems that need my attention. I do shave some to keep it in check (bad kitty, bad) and trim with scissors.

With that being said, I feel this is your WH's issue. Have you told him you like six pack abs and does he have them? Also, no hair in your ears, bud, or your nose and your eyebrows have better be in great shape and not those crazy ass old guy eyebrows. Does he have gray hair? Better dye it because you like dark hair. FTG!

I agree with previous posters that it's your body; and if you don't want to do it, don't.

I'm not sure how common it is, but I will say that I don't think it's just for porn and prostitutes. I have shaved mine since I was in high school (no waxing or razors, just clippers with no guard). It really has nothing to do with whether a guy prefers it sexually or not, I just prefer the feel of it and it seems more clean to me.. I haven't been with anyone since my STBX and I separated over 6 months ago, but I still do it as a personal preference..

Sooo, on the one hand it's pretty common among at least the girls I know (let's say age range from 27-34ish). Personally I prefer to wax, but whatever.

Point is, I still agree with everyone else. The fact that he is trying to suggest (or more forcefully, tell you) to do something you don't want to do troubles me. It's your body and you can do (or not do!) what you want. He's being a bully and in NO WAY does this help your healing.

I for one want a mature, natural woman. Not any resemblance to a child,a whore, or a porn star. However my opinion about that is unimportant. What IS vitally important here is what the other respondents above have said.

He is trying to force you, (operative word FORCE), into something you do not want, and do not feel comfortable with! Don't do it if you don't want to.

i triggered like a freaking freight train just now.....

the title....

My Fww did this for her A...

She had done it for us 5-6 years before the A and then didnt for years.....then out of the blue....zap....

it was a sign....that I missed

I had to reply to this. My evil ex always wanted it completely smooth and shaved. Now I realise that it must have been from all the porn he was watching! He thought having hair there was disgusting. Strangely he seems to have twisted my mind, and now it's as if I think there is something wrong with it too!

Personally-I like to be smooth, and clean. This started for me when I was having constant lady issues, and was able to keep things cleaner much easier. There was a pleasant surprise that went with this, and that was being without hair made things in the nether region much more sensitive ( in a good way) So yah I'm probably on the outer limit for the age range that does this as a whole, (42) but I like it. No I don't think I look like a prostitute, or a

porn star either, lol.

I don't do it cause he likes it, I do it for me.

Letitout, if you do something to your body it should be because you want to not anyone else wanting you to.

The only thing I can add is if you haven't shaved it before you may want to try it, to see if you have more sensitivity, and makes things more enjoyable, but not because he wants you to.

Ok I'm rambling. Done now.

Well..TMI..bit I keep mine shaved..and I can assure you,Im not in porn,nor am I a whore. I like it because *I* like it. WH could care less. But I shave for me. It feels better during sex,and again..TMI..look away men...but during my period, it feels cleaner. I can't use tampons,only pads,and sometimes blood gets in the pubic hair. ugh. No thanks. But that is what is right for ME. You do what is right for YOU. It's your vagina. If you don't want to,don't do it.

Thank the Gods this is an anonymous site.

I think it's much more common than people realize according to discussions I've had with women over the years. It's not a desire to look like a little girl, it's usually a desire to just not have hair down there. But that's just a personal preference, usually, and not so much a sexual thing. Of course nowadays people talk openly about the sexual thing (increase of sensitivity due to lack of hair), but, whatever. Like the others, my concern for you is if he pressures you to do this after you voice your opinion that you do NOT want to do it.

I wish people would stop saying if a guy like's it it's like a paedo!! What about women who want a man's face to be really smooth??! The last time my face wasn't furry I was a boy- when my Mrs tells me to shave I don't think 'urgh you pervert'!!

I think the point is- he isn't in a position to tell you what to do with your own body- I always think- if she wants my opinion on something so personal- she'll ask!!

Confused615- So pleased I'm a man right now... girls are gross... JOKING!!!!

The popularity of shaving did come from porn, and it is widely accepted among the younger generation. Some shave anything that is below the neck. The idea of feminine beauty is constantly changing, and that is just one of the most recent ways.

Ugh... IT IS SO MUCH WORK to maintain hair free lady bits. And personally I don't think it looks that good in real life. Sure in magazines maybe, but in reality you have razor burn and ingrown hairs. I tried waxing and was covered in bruises after. How is that sexy?

I trim because I am in the pool a lot at the gym, and don't like hairs peeking out of my bathing suit. But that's all!