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FirstLoveGone (original poster member #25957) posted at 8:04 PM on Thursday, May 16th, 2013
After 4 years of no-shows to DD's events, XH has finally decided to attend one. Praise the lord! Let the heavens open up so we can rejoice! 
But of course he is bringing wifetress and new baby. The ridiculous part is that his parents are accompanying DD and I to the event because he decided to attend last minute.
I am going to look my best, hold my head up high, be pleasant, and enjoy my DD's event. I am going to be the proud mamma bear and act like the lady that I am. I will not let those two fools intimidate me or make me feel like less than just because I am un-partnered.
I am ready! So bring it on!
Faithful w/Love ( member #33128) posted at 8:05 PM on Thursday, May 16th, 2013
BS(ME)41 WH(HIM)38
DD 21 and DS 16
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"
cryingdaily ( member #7276) posted at 8:08 PM on Thursday, May 16th, 2013
You will be fabulous! Proud and fabulous!
Pass ( member #38122) posted at 9:21 PM on Thursday, May 16th, 2013
Good job, FirstLoveGone. We can't beat them at their own level, but out-classing them couldn't be easier!
Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 3:37 PM on Friday, May 17th, 2013
It will be so obvious to onlookers that you are the class act.
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
PurpleBlueBella ( member #38579) posted at 3:45 PM on Friday, May 17th, 2013
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 3:53 PM on Friday, May 17th, 2013
When you put shoe polish on those bitch boots they are rather elegant attire for a lady!
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
FirstLoveGone (original poster member #25957) posted at 6:07 PM on Friday, May 17th, 2013
Thanks ladies and gentleman!
This turn of events would have put me into a tailspin a year ago. But I'm taking it all in stride. FTG and the wh*re he rode in on!
The only thing I am not looking forward to is the post-event reception. I really don't want to stand there any make chit-chat with XH, wifetress, and the XILs(who are accompanying DD and I to the event as well as leaving with us). I'll have to somehow occupy myself while they play happy family. Unfortunately, I won't know anyone at the reception.
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Pass ( member #38122) posted at 7:24 PM on Friday, May 17th, 2013
FTG and the wh*re he rode in on!
Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 2:19 AM on Saturday, May 18th, 2013
Oh, you don't talk to them. You do the indirect cut. The Cut Direct would be far more satisfying, but given that your DD will be there and you don't want to hurt her, the indirect cut will do just fine.
They are, of course, persons that you vaguely know, are not interested in getting to know better, so you smile vaguely and answer the same way. "That's nice" should be your standard reply keep it short and then move away. If wifetress has anything to say, I would look right though her and act as if I were deaf. And ask your DD to introduce you to teammates that she likes. Then introduce yourself to the parents and strike up a conversation. I'm not saying that if they notice FWH and wifetress hovering around and ask about them, that you should actually say something to the effect that "Oh, that's my former husband and his mistress turned wife," in an amused voice, but if something like that slipped out, well, truth is tough at times. (((hugs)))
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Jayne Doe ( member #32664) posted at 3:52 AM on Saturday, May 18th, 2013
While you're sitting there looking amazing ~ keep this quote in mind....
"When another woman steals your man, the best revenge is to let her keep him"
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Everyday is a blank canvas, and only you hold the brush.
30y M traded in for a POM (pathetic Old Maid 46, 2 kids from different dads. never married)
S 11/11, D final 1/14.
FirstLoveGone (original poster member #25957) posted at 4:34 AM on Saturday, May 18th, 2013
Thanks for the advice skan and Jayne.
I'll report back to you all tomorrow!
Wish me luck!
FirstLoveGone (original poster member #25957) posted at 10:22 PM on Saturday, May 18th, 2013
Well that was anti-climactic!
Wifey and baby were no-shows. Apparently the baby is sick so wifey stayed home with the baby.
I basically pretended that XH wasn't there and enjoyed the recital.
Till next time!
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 11:28 PM on Saturday, May 18th, 2013
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
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