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Reconciliation :
I must be strong

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 cantaccept (original poster member #37451) posted at 3:25 PM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2013

somehow even while we are living together I have to detach.

He is not willing to give me what I need. Will not even try to find out. Keeps blaming my pain on my childhood. That it is not from his betrayal.

I am going to work on me. I will not worry any longer if I am meeting his needs.

It is up to him to take responsibility if he so chooses.

I he chooses not to we are done. I will not just pretend that all is forgiven.

Forgiveness cannot be given without remorse.

"I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid" Elton John
I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie

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heforgotme ( member #38391) posted at 3:26 PM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2013

You are completely and totally right.

Many hugs to strong you.

D-Day 11/15/12
5 month PA
Married 20 years, 3 kids
All good is hard. All evil is easy. Dying, losing, cheating, and mediocrity is easy. Stay away from easy.
- Scott Alexander
It was the day I thought I'd never get through - Daughtry

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 8:14 PM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2013

amen, and you ARE strong.

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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LA44 ( member #38384) posted at 11:19 PM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2013

((cantaccept)) This can be your new prayer - Keep saying it!Post it where you can see it everyday!

YOU ARE STRONG!

I read this one this site: You don't need the bus to back over you after its already run you over.

Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

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