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gahurts ( member #33699) posted at 2:03 AM on Wednesday, June 5th, 2013
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
Sad in AZ (original poster member #24239) posted at 3:04 AM on Wednesday, June 5th, 2013
Just back from spending a long day with mom; I took her on a road trip. She does indeed seem to have Sundown syndrome. She wasn't making a lot of sense on the way home.
My brother hadn't spoken to me since election day-we're on opposite sides of the fence but I don't get into any political discussions with him. He just chose to spit venom that night, and I decided to get off the crazy train. Now I have to deal with him in order to get my mom's affairs in order (he's on all of her bank accounts), and it's not going to work because he needs to spend his energy on healing. I'm not sure how to proceed. This is going to be interesting.
My brother will be 54 tomorrow. He's been pushing his family away with his drinking over the past few years; my niece and nephews don't seem to be too concerned about him. I guess he's made his bed...it's tough because we used to be very close.
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 3:20 AM on Wednesday, June 5th, 2013
Sad,
I am sorry you're dealing with all of this. I'm keeping you and your family in my prayers.
hugs too,
K
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
metamorphisis ( member #12041) posted at 3:36 AM on Wednesday, June 5th, 2013
Go softly my sweet friend. You will always be a part of who I am.
somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 3:47 AM on Wednesday, June 5th, 2013
..(((((Sad))))))..
..family drama can sometimes push the limits.. sorry you are dealing with these challenges (mom and bro)
..sending you prayers and strength.
smy
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
click4it ( member #209) posted at 5:48 AM on Wednesday, June 5th, 2013
(((sad)))
very sorry to hear. sending lots of positive thoughts your way. and warm hugs too of course.
Me: 45
Two boys: 20 and 17
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01
Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?
painpaingoaway ( member #27196) posted at 2:22 PM on Wednesday, June 5th, 2013
I'm so sorry Sad. 
You are dealing with alot, and it most probably will get worse before it gets better.
You may want to go ahead and get yourself added to all her accounts, and discuss with your brother about changing your Mom's POA and executor to yourself if he is currently the primary.
I dealt with all this same stuff for many many years, and it's not easy. Make sure you see YOUR doctor on a regular basis, and mention both your Mom's and your brother's conditions.
Stay strong sweetie.
D-Day June 2009
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk
deeplysad ( member #16590) posted at 4:29 PM on Wednesday, June 5th, 2013
I'm so sorry for all you're going through..I can't imagine having to deal with so much.
(((Sad)))
Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.
Crescita ( member #32616) posted at 5:02 PM on Wednesday, June 5th, 2013
“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
Lucky ( member #6864) posted at 8:23 PM on Wednesday, June 5th, 2013
((( sad )))
Sending you love...
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